Beautiful Boy

by

David Sheff

Beautiful Boy: Epilogue Summary & Analysis

Summary
Analysis
After Nic completes three months at Santa Fe, his counselors recommend that he go to a program in Northern Arizona to continue his work in recovery and to get a job. Instead, Nic decides to travel east, where he gets a job and meets someone new. He continues writing his book. David is uncertain about these changes, but he knows that it is Nic’s life to do what he wants.
David’s ability to recognize that Nic’s life is his to do with as he wishes shows just how far he has come. While David still cares deeply about Nic’s wellbeing, he knows now that he can’t control Nic’s life and must let him be independent.
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David turns 50 that December. He thinks about all that he experienced in the previous few years, including his stay in the ICU. He realizes, with the help of his therapist, that even if stress didn’t caused his brain hemorrhage, it didn’t help. He decides to go to therapy multiple times a week to work through his worry and guilt.
Just as Nic gains support from his programs and his sponsors, David gains the same support from his therapist. He continues his own program of recovery (trying to mitigate his obsession with Nic’s addiction) by adding more therapy sessions.
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David continues to attend Al-Anon meetings. Though he has been doing good work in therapy, he is still unsure of whether he was partly responsible for Nic’s addiction. He does, however, recognize that he can never know how much he contributed to Nic’s addiction. David has accepted the other C’s: he cannot control it or cure Nic’s problem. David is confident that he has done everything he can to help Nic, and now it’s up to Nic to make his own choices.
Even as David makes progress in other areas, he still grapples with how much blame to take upon himself for Nic’s addiction. Yet in acknowledging that he will never know how much to blame himself, he recognizes that dwelling in the past and focusing on things he cannot change isn’t helpful. What has made a difference is how much he has supported Nic through his entire journey.
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David continues to hear stories from friends, friends of friends, and strangers who have read his article, often asking for advice. He advises talking to one’s kids early and often about drugs and being careful not to glorify drugs. He also suggests erring on the side of caution in knowing whether kids are simply experimenting. Looking back, David wishes that he’d forced Nic into a rehab program before he turned 18. Nic might not have been ready for its lessons, but it might have slowed him down.
David’s advice partly stems from what he perceives as his own mistakes in dealing with Nic: talking to Nic about his own drug use, not viewing the warning signs with more trepidation, and not committing him to a rehab program while he still could. While this still acknowledges blame, he hopes that other loved ones of addicts can feel a sense of support from the lessons that he has learned.
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David also recommends getting opinions from many people—doctors, therapists, and counselors—to decide what to do with a child on drugs. He says that sending a child to rehab is one of the hardest decisions a parent can make, but it can be a life-saving one. He says that rehab isn’t perfect, but it’s the best thing that exists. Medications cannot replace recovery work. David also notes that he would not help someone using drugs to do anything other than to return to rehab.
David’s second set of advice also stems from the lessons he has learned: the necessity of support for loved ones and making sure that they have as much information as possible when making decisions. He also reiterates the necessity of support for addicts—getting them the help they need through rehab programs. Yet David also highlights the line between support and enabling, making sure that one’s help isn’t taken advantage of.
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David also gives advice directly to family members to be patient with themselves and allow for mistakes. He suggests they go to therapy and Al-Anon because shared stories can help people support one another. For David, reading and writing has also helped. Though sometimes he still becomes anxious about the future, he has learned to take it one day at a time.
David returns to the impetus of the book: to serve as a support system itself for family members of addicts. In writing Beautiful Boy, he hopes that readers will find comfort in relating to his story, but also affirmation that if they want what’s best for their loved one, they cannot blame themselves for what has happened.
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Daisy’s tenth birthday is also step-up day: Daisy is stepping up to fifth grade and Jasper to seventh. It is also exactly a year since David’s brain hemorrhage. That night, the family goes to Nancy and Don’s house for their weekly dinner. They play games together, run around with the dogs, and have dinner and cake.
This return to an episode of a happy family celebrating its milestones reinforces that just as Nic can recover from his addiction, so too can their families recover and find joy in their lives and milestones.
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Summer comes quickly, which brings surfing and time at the beach. At home, David continues to write when an email arrives from Nic’s girlfriend: photos from their recent road trip, with Nic smiling in front of Yellowstone National Park. David calls Nic to say hi: he sounds like Nic. Nic says to give Karen and Jasper and Daisy his love, and then he has to go.
While the book proper ended on a bittersweet note, the epilogue ends on a hopeful one. The contrast between these two endings shows how, in the middle of a crisis, it can seem like things will never get better. But one can never give up hope, because hope is the only thing that will allow Nic to reach moments like this one.
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