Becoming

by

Michelle Obama

Michelle’s husband and the forty-fourth president of the United States. Barack is the son of a white Kansan mother, Ann Dunham, and a black Kenyan father, Barack Obama Sr. He is born and grows up in Hawaii, and though his parents’ marriage is short-lived, his mother prioritizes making sure that he gets a good education. Barack goes to college at Columbia before moving on to Harvard Law School. Michelle serves as his mentor when he becomes a summer associate at her law firm, between his first and second years at law school. Michelle is struck by his signature optimism, which she quickly realizes is not only his attitude towards his own everyday life, but also how he views the world. He wants to make a tangible difference in the country, particularly hoping to improve the lives of marginalized people and communities. This is what ultimately prompts him to become a state senator, before running for the Senate and then President of the United States. Campaigning on the promise of hope and change, Barack inspires other people to be optimistic about the future of the country, particularly as it falls into a deep economic recession. Barack, like Michelle, experiences a great deal of racism along his various campaigns and while President, but his election does demonstrate a tangible social change in the country (although not an eradication of racism altogether, as some believe). Barack takes the responsibility of the presidency extremely seriously, making sure that he understands both everyday issues of Americans as well as the complexities of social, political, and economic issues that he hopes to improve.

Barack Obama Quotes in Becoming

The Becoming quotes below are all either spoken by Barack Obama or refer to Barack Obama. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Chapter 3 Quotes

At one point, one of the girls, a second, third, or fourth cousin of mine, gave me a sideways look and said, just a touch hotly, “How come you talk like a white girl?”

The question was pointed, meant as an insult or at least a challenge, but it also came from an earnest place. It held a kernel of something that was confusing for both of us. We seemed to be related but of two different worlds.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 40
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Chapter 5 Quotes

He toured the country, mesmerizing crowds with thundering calls for black people to shake off the undermining ghetto stereotypes and claim their long-denied political power. He preached a message of relentless, let’s-do-this self-empowerment. “Down with dope! Up with hope!” he’d call to his audiences.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Reverend Jesse Jackson (speaker), Barack Obama, Santita Jackson
Page Number: 62
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Chapter 7 Quotes

Your passion stays low, yet under no circumstance will you underperform. You live, as you always have, by the code of effort/result, and with it you keep achieving until you think you know the answers to all the questions—including the most important one. Am I good enough? Yes, in fact I am.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 92
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Chapter 9 Quotes

But listening to Barack, I began to understand that his version of hope reached far beyond mine: It was one thing to get yourself out of a stuck place, I realized. It was another thing entirely to try and get the place itself unstuck.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 118
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I informed Barack that if our relationship was going to work, he’d better get comfortable with the phone. “If I’m not talking to you,” I announced, “I might have to find another guy who’ll listen.” I was joking, but only a little.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 119
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Chapter 10 Quotes

“I’m just not fulfilled,” I said.

I see now how this must have come across to my mother, who was then in the ninth year of a job she’d taken primarily so she could help finance my college education, after years of not having a job so that she’d be free to sew my school clothes, cook my meals, and do laundry for my dad, who for the sake of our family spent eight hours a day watching gauges on a boiler at the filtration plant.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Michelle’s mother, Michelle’s father, Suzanne Alele
Page Number: 132
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Chapter 11 Quotes

I had never been one to hold city hall in high regard. Having grown up black and on the South Side, I had little faith in politics. Politics had traditionally been used against black folks, as a means to keep us isolated and excluded, leaving us undereducated, unemployed, and underpaid. I had grandparents who’d lived through the horror of Jim Crow laws and the humiliation of housing discrimination and basically mistrusted authority of any sort.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Valerie Jarrett, Dandy, Southside
Page Number: 151
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Chapter 12 Quotes

It sounds a little like a bad joke, doesn’t it? What happens when a solitude-loving individualist marries an outgoing family woman who does not love solitude one bit?

The answer, I’m guessing, is probably the best and most sustaining answer to nearly every question arising inside a marriage, no matter who you are or what the issue is: You find ways to adapt. If you’re in it forever, there’s really no choice.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Ann Dunham
Page Number: 171
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Chapter 13 Quotes

None of this was his fault, but it wasn’t equal, either, and for any woman who lives by the mantra that equality is important, this can be a little confusing. It was me who’d alter everything, putting my passions and career dreams on hold, to fulfill this piece of our dream. I found myself in a small moment of reckoning. Did I want it? Yes, I wanted it so much. And with this, I hoisted the needle and sank it into my flesh.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 189
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Chapter 14 Quotes

In the end, the year 2000 arrived without incident. After a couple of days of rest and some antibiotics, what indeed had turned out to be a nasty ear infection for Malia cleared up, returning our toddler to her normal bouncy state. Life would go on. It always did. On another perfect blue-sky day in Honolulu, we boarded a plane and flew home to Chicago, back into the chill of winter and into what for Barack was shaping up to be a political disaster.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama
Page Number: 196
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Chapter 16 Quotes

Crazy rumors swirled about Barack: that he’d been schooled in a radical Muslim madrassa and sworn into the Senate on a Koran. That he refused to recite the Pledge of Allegiance. That he wouldn’t put his hand over his heart during the national anthem. That he had a close friend who was a domestic terrorist from the 1970s.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 242
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Chapter 17 Quotes

And yet a pernicious seed had been planted—a perception of me as disgruntled and vaguely hostile, lacking some expected level of grace. Whether it was originating from Barack’s political opponents or elsewhere, we couldn’t tell, but the rumors and slanted commentary almost always carried less-than-subtle messaging about race, meant to stir up the deepest and ugliest kind of fear within the voting public. Don’t let the black folks take over. They’re not like you. Their vision is not yours.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 262
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Chapter 19 Quotes

“On this day,” he said, “we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord.”

I saw that truth mirrored again and again in the faces of the people who stood shivering in the cold to witness it. There were people in every direction, as far back as I could see. They filled every inch of the National Mall and the parade route. I felt as if our family were almost falling into their arms now. We were making a pact, all of us. You’ve got us; we’ve got you.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama (speaker)
Page Number: 299
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Chapter 20 Quotes

I understood how lucky we were to be living this way. The master suite in the residence was bigger than the entirety of the upstairs apartment my family had shared when I was growing up on Euclid Avenue. There was a Monet painting hanging outside my bedroom door and a bronze Degas sculpture in our dining room. I was a child of the South Side, now raising daughters who slept in rooms designed by a high-end interior decorator and who could custom order their breakfast from a chef.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 305
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There are pieces of public life, of giving up one’s privacy to become a walking, talking symbol of a nation, that can seem specifically designed to strip away part of your identity. But here, finally, speaking to those girls, I felt something completely different and pure—an alignment of my old self with this new role. Are you good enough? Yes, you are, all of you. I told the students of Elizabeth Garrett Anderson that they’d touched my heart. I told them that they were precious, because they truly were. And when my talk was over, I did what was instinctive. I hugged absolutely every single girl I could reach.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 320
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Chapter 23 Quotes

Later that day, Barack held a press conference downstairs, trying to put together words that might add up to something like solace. He wiped away tears as news cameras clicked furiously around him, understanding that truly there was no solace to be had. The best he could do was to offer his resolve—something he assumed would also get taken up by citizens and lawmakers around the country—to prevent more massacres by passing basic, sensible laws concerning how guns were sold.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama
Page Number: 378
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Chapter 24 Quotes

He was a good father, dialed in and consistent in ways his own father had never been, but there were also things he’d sacrificed along the way. He’d entered into parenthood as a politician. His constituents and their needs had been with us all along.

It had to hurt a little bit, realizing he was so close to having more freedom and more time, just as our daughters were beginning to step away. But we had to let them go. The future was theirs, just as it should be.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
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Epilogue Quotes

For me, becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self. The journey doesn’t end. I became a mother, but I still have a lot to learn from and give to my children. I became a wife, but I continue to adapt to and be humbled by what it means to truly love and make a life with another person. I have become, by certain measures, a person of power, and yet there are moments still when I feel insecure or unheard.

Related Characters: Michelle Obama (speaker), Barack Obama, Malia Obama, Sasha Obama
Page Number: 406
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Barack Obama Character Timeline in Becoming

The timeline below shows where the character Barack Obama appears in Becoming. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Chapter 3
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...a denial of one’s culture. Michelle sees this same confusion play out years later, as Barack steps onto the national stage and people across the country have a hard time squaring... (full context)
Chapter 8
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Barack Obama is late on his very first day of work. Michelle, a first-year lawyer, is... (full context)
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In the office, Michelle grows frustrated with Barack’s lateness, seeing it as a sign of hubris. Barack has already created a stir in... (full context)
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Michelle quickly realizes Barack will need very little of her advice. He is three years older than she is... (full context)
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Michelle is also surprised with how well Barack knows Chicago. Before starting at Harvard, he worked in Chicago for three years as a... (full context)
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Over the next few weeks, Michelle and Barack start to become friendly. They chat in the afternoons, sharing easy banter and similar mind-sets.... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack share a weekly lunch and they learn more and more about each other. She learns... (full context)
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Barack is unlike most people Michelle knows. While they are concerned with their own upward mobility... (full context)
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...her and Craig so much that they would try to hide or destroy their cigarettes. Barack smokes the same way that her parents did, prompting Michelle to ask him, “Why would... (full context)
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Things start to change between Michelle and Barack, as she starts to realize that she has developed some latent feelings for him. She... (full context)
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Later in the summer, the firm organizes an outing to Les Misérables, and Michelle and Barack both go and sit next two each other. Neither of them enjoys the show, and... (full context)
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A few days later, Michelle and Barack drive together to another firm social event, a barbecue at a partner’s home. She watches... (full context)
Chapter 9
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Michelle’s feelings for Barack quickly surge, particularly because he is due back at Harvard in a month. She begins... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack try to keep their relationship under wraps at work. Work feels like a distraction, however,... (full context)
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Barack’s family was very unlike Michelle’s. His mother, Ann Dunham, and his father, a Kenyan student... (full context)
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Barack enjoyed his time in Indonesia, but Ann was concerned about his education, and so she... (full context)
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One evening that summer, a community organizer colleague asks a favor of Barack: to lead a training at a black parish in Roseland, on the South Side. Michelle... (full context)
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Barack tries to show the people how to think positively, amid their “disenfranchisement and sinking helplessness.”... (full context)
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When the summer ends, Barack returns to Harvard. Both he and Michelle would be busy the following year: she would... (full context)
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That Christmas, Michelle and Barack go to Honolulu together, and Barack introduces her to some of his family and the... (full context)
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...prospects and then looking to see if their personalities match. But Michelle sees immediately that Barack has long-lasting relationships with friends, isn’t self-conscious about fear or weakness, and is both humble... (full context)
Chapter 10
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That summer, Barack returns to Chicago and moves into Michelle’s apartment, quickly becoming accepted by her family. Barack... (full context)
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While Barack is very confident in his future, Michelle writes in a sporadically-used journal that she feels... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack begin to speak about their views on marriage. For Michelle, getting married has always been... (full context)
Chapter 11
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...think about it, but she asks a final question: whether she can introduce Valerie to Barack. (full context)
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Barack had finished school a few months after Michelle’s father passed away, and he moved back... (full context)
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Michelle admires how Barack believes his opportunities are endless and doesn’t worry about whether they will dry up. He... (full context)
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...but the sting of the first failure remains with her. This is why Michelle regards Barack’s studying (or lack of it) with curiosity. She knows that he’ll pass the bar, but... (full context)
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Barack and Michelle celebrate his achievement on the day he completes the exam, going to a... (full context)
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Shortly after Michelle accepts Barack’s proposal, she accepts the job at city hall. Barack accepts a position at a public... (full context)
Chapter 12
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Michelle and Barack marry in the summer of 1992, surrounded by their families—Michelle’s from the South Side, and... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack take a honeymoon in northern California. They are more than ready to take a vacation:... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack return from California to good news and bad. The good news is the result of... (full context)
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The bad news is that Barack has completely missed his book deadline, the publisher has canceled his contract, and Barack now... (full context)
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Barack returns home with a basically finished book and sells the manuscript to a new publisher... (full context)
Chapter 13
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...hire a small staff to support the new Allies. She also speaks with every connection Barack has to find donors and people who can support the program, including those who can... (full context)
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Barack, meanwhile, finds his own purpose. He teaches a class on racism and the law at... (full context)
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...and a state senator named Alice Palmer intends to run, leaving her own seat vacant. Barack asks Michelle what she thinks about his running for the seat. She writes that, as... (full context)
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Michelle doesn’t want to dissuade Barack from his belief that he enact change, however, so she gives her approval. Barack is... (full context)
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After Barack is elected, every Monday through Thursday he stays at a hotel in Springfield before returning... (full context)
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Barack is an eager state senator, quickly introducing many new bills that get picked off by... (full context)
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As Barack gets accustomed to politics, Michelle takes a new job at the University Chicago, where Art... (full context)
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...more reasonable hours, and good health-care benefits. This will prove particularly important, because Michelle and Barack are trying to get pregnant, and it isn’t going well. (full context)
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As months go on and Michelle and Barack are unable to get pregnant, they try to make adjustments in their schedules to optimize... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack see a fertility doctor, who says he cannot discern any biological issues. He then recommends... (full context)
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...she even feels that pregnancy is a privilege: “the gift of being female.” She and Barack are both bright with optimism and promise for the baby that she is carrying. Michelle... (full context)
Chapter 14
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Motherhood becomes Michelle’s motivator. She becomes completely consumed by taking care of Malia, as does Barack. They are, she writes, “obsessive and a little boring.” Several months after Malia is born,... (full context)
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...“only half doing everything,” not spending enough time at work nor enough time with Malia. Barack, on the other hand, hardly misses a stride. He is reelected to a four-year term... (full context)
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At the end of 1999, when Malia is about eighteen months, Michelle and Barack plan to travel to Hawaii over Christmas. But politics intervene: the state senate is hung... (full context)
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A few days before the new year, Barack gets a call, saying that the senate is abruptly going back into session to finish... (full context)
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Malia gets better after a few days’ rest and some antibiotics, but Barack’s campaign takes a beating for his absence (even though the vote was lost by five).... (full context)
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Michelle is also surprised to see opponents try to target Barack by drumming up fear and mistrust amongst African American voters. One opponent calls Barack “the... (full context)
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Life continues with a new rhythm: two kids, three jobs (Barack is teaching as well as legislating), two cars, one condo, and no free time. George... (full context)
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Michelle becomes officially frustrated with Barack’s regularly arriving home so late, when Sasha and Malia’s eyes are already drooping, and with... (full context)
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Michelle suggests couple’s counseling, and Barack agrees to go despite some hesitation. Counseling helps Michelle realize that there are ways she... (full context)
Chapter 15
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...people she could have mentored better. She tries to maintain stability and normalcy at home. Barack, meanwhile, comes and goes with his schedule but makes the most of the time he... (full context)
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Barack, Michelle, Valerie Jarrett, and a few close friends meet to discuss Barack’s running. Barack explains... (full context)
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Barack gets a few lucky twists along the campaign. The incumbent decides not to run, and... (full context)
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Then, John Kerry invites Barack to give the keynote address at the 2004 Democratic National Convention. Barack is still a... (full context)
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Barack speaks for seventeen minutes that night, explaining who he is and where he comes from:... (full context)
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...to the speech is “hyperbolic.” One pundit comments, “I’ve just seen the first black president.” Barack’s phone rings non-stop. People stop him on the street, asking for his autograph. Journalists ask... (full context)
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Barack starts flying back and forth to D.C. all the time, while Michelle sticks to her... (full context)
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Michelle does visit Washington for Barack’s orientation as a senator. The “decorous traditions” of Washington confuse Michelle, as it appears catered... (full context)
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Barack starts to write The Audacity of Hope, thinking through his vision of the country. Then,... (full context)
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In the summer of 2006, Barack’s political clout rises with the publication of The Audacity of Hope. His unofficial poll numbers... (full context)
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Despite many reservations, Michelle and Barack talk through the idea of his running for present. Their conversations are sometimes “angry and... (full context)
Chapter 16
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Barack announces his campaign in Springfield, Illinois, but his announcement is inadvertently scheduled on the same... (full context)
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...announcement speech. What she feels instead is an immense sense of responsibility: that she and Barack owe something to each and every person in that audience. (full context)
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...name recognition alone, she could win, particularly when going up against a black man named Barack Hussein Obama. Even in the black community, they struggle, with many not yet believing that... (full context)
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Barack’s campaign staff understand that they either have to win Iowa or stand down. Michelle visits... (full context)
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...the public health consequences of this marketing. One evening Michelle and Sam discuss that if Barack makes it to the White House (still a long shot), Sam could help Michelle with... (full context)
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...She is hurt by a column written by Maureen Dowd suggesting that she is “emasculating” Barack by speaking publicly about his not picking up his socks or putting the butter back... (full context)
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Rumors swirl around Barack as well: that he had been “schooled in a radical Muslim madrassa and sworn into... (full context)
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...or drive around in an RV the campaign had rented. Through most of the year, Barack is still significantly behind both Hillary Clinton and John Edwards. Yet Michelle’s instincts tell her... (full context)
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Barack has one final chance to change up the race in Iowa at the Jefferson-Jackson dinner.... (full context)
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About eight weeks later, in January, Barack wins the Iowa caucuses. Michelle is overjoyed, and starts to believe that perhaps everything that... (full context)
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Michelle spends a lot of 2008 trying to dodge the same kinds of punches. Barack had spent the winter and spring of 2008 battling over every state with Hillary Clinton.... (full context)
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...“Happy Birthday, Malia!” People are kind to Malia and Sasha and respectful toward Michelle and Barack, even though many admit that voting for a Democrat would be a “crazy departure from... (full context)
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...the store rather than letting her get it herself. If she wants to speak to Barack, she has to ask a young staffer. Before the afternoon in Butte ends, the family... (full context)
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...texts. Stevie Wonder shows up to play at campaign events and jokes with her and Barack. But at the same time, her every action or word is subject to intense scrutiny... (full context)
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...these words, saying that Michelle is not a patriot. When Michelle gets home and calls Barack, he tells her not to worry. She’s only getting this criticism because people see how... (full context)
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...level of grace of other political wives. The criticism of her and the rumors around Barack always carry “less-than-subtle messaging about race, meant to stir up the deepest and ugliest kind... (full context)
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...continues to speak about optimism and unity, but the conservative outlets continue their rage against Barack. A photo of Barack wearing a turban and Somali clothing on a senate visit revives... (full context)
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Michelle goes to Barack, upset and feeling overwhelmed by the negative criticism that often follows her media appearances. She... (full context)
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Michelle explains that, even though Hillary Clinton was Barack’s primary opponent, she sees that Clinton has her own difficulty with pundits making gendered critiques... (full context)
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...speech in front of twenty thousand people. She speaks of her father, her family, and Barack’s “noble heart.” When she finishes, people applaud and applaud, and she hopes that perhaps she’s... (full context)
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...is performing. She flashes back to Butte, Montana, on Malia’s birthday, worrying that she and Barack had come up short in terms of celebrations. They feel like they haven’t made the... (full context)
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Four months later, on November 4, 2008, Michelle casts her vote for Barack. As she stands in the booth, she is amazed that, after years of campaigning, this... (full context)
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The polls show Barack ahead, but Michelle worries about the Bradley effect, named for an African American candidate named... (full context)
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...had struck when the U.S. economy began to spiral out of control. Michelle knows that Barack is the right person to take on the job at this moment, but he will... (full context)
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Michelle catches a moment for herself and sneaks upstairs—only to find Barack. He had received news only the day before that his grandmother, Toot, had passed away... (full context)
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...in at 6:00pm. A few states go for McCain, but more start to go to Barack. Illinois goes to Barack. Michelle, Malia, Sasha, and Michelle’s mother wait with Barack as the... (full context)
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At ten o’clock, the networks begin to announce that Barack will become the forty-fourth president. Everyone starts to cheer and yell. It is surreal. They... (full context)
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Michelle fills out her staff, and Barack fills out his cabinet and meets with experts on how to rescue the economy. Michelle... (full context)
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...which is both “relieving and distressing.” Michelle had visited the White House once before: when Barack was in the senate, she, Malia, and Sasha had taken a tour. It was massive... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack meet George W. Bush and Laura Bush, who supported McCain but vow to make their... (full context)
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The pace of the transition doesn’t slow down, as Barack and Michelle are caught up in several simultaneous projects: redecorating the White House, planning the... (full context)
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...to it—particularly, Michelle acknowledges, to those who had been part of the civil rights movement. Barack makes a point of including figures from the movement, like the Tuskegee Airmen and the... (full context)
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Barack is sworn in on Abraham Lincoln’s Bible, vowing to protect the U.S. Constitution and agreeing... (full context)
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After the ceremony, Michelle and Barack (alongside Joe and Jill Biden) lead the inaugural parade back to the White House. They... (full context)
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Michelle and Barack attend ten Inaugural Balls that evening, slow dancing to “At Last” (their “first dance” song)... (full context)
Chapter 20
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In his first month in office, Barack signs the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act, which protects workers from wage discrimination based on... (full context)
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...she tries to modernize them a little. The same goes for the White House, where Barack and Michelle try to hang more abstract art and works by African American artists on... (full context)
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...first few months is tempered by one thing: divisive politics. Republicans seem bent on preventing Barack from trying to stanch the economic crisis, refusing to support measures that would cut taxes... (full context)
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In April, Michelle and Barack visit the Queen during the G20 summit (a meeting of leaders representing the world’s largest... (full context)
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After the summit, Michelle and Barack attend a palace reception. Towards the end of the party, she finds that Queen Elizabeth... (full context)
Chapter 21
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One Saturday evening at the end of May, Barack takes Michelle on a date to New York City. They go to a restaurant, trying... (full context)
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That evening in New York, Michelle and Barack eat, drink, and talk, reveling in the fact that they are able to escape for... (full context)
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Barack’s team is also keen on maintaining appearances—particularly when the economy is in such rough shape,... (full context)
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...Lawn to show that exercise can be fun, and she does interviews with health magazines. Barack signs a memorandum to create a federal task force on childhood obesity. (full context)
Chapter 22
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...arrives at the White House, and they are let free on the lawn. When Michelle, Barack, Sasha, and Malia go out to see them, assured that they have bene sedated, the... (full context)
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...world: an earthquake in Haiti, an oil rig explosion, revolution in Egypt. She understands both Barack’s and her responsibility to remain calm in the face of tragedy, hardship, and confusion. After... (full context)
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Despite the weight on Barack’s shoulders, he manages to be “admirably present and undistracted” when he is with Michelle and... (full context)
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...just before Republicans gain control of the House after the midterms. She proudly watches as Barack signs it into law, knowing that she is responsible not only for this but also... (full context)
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While the issues that Michelle takes on are somewhat compact and manageable, Barack’s are not. She observes how he consumes as much information as possible to make informed... (full context)
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In the winter of 2011, Michelle and Barack begin hearing that reality-show host and New York real-estate developer Donald Trump is thinking about... (full context)
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Two years after arriving at the White House, Michelle and Barack continue to try to ease the formality of the place by inviting more people, and... (full context)
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...goes out to dinner on a particularly busy weekend. She arrives home to discover that Barack is about to address the nation. Michelle catches Barack in the hallway of the residence.... (full context)
Chapter 23
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As Barack’s reelection year nears, Michelle continues to put pressure on herself not to rest. She’s “haunted”... (full context)
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...to the election will be extra difficult. The summer of 2011 is “especially bruising” for Barack. A group of congressional Republicans refuses to raise the debt ceiling (a relatively routine process)... (full context)
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Barack proposes three bills over the fall of 2011 to create thousands of jobs for Americans... (full context)
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...are gradually leaving Afghanistan. The Affordable Care Act has largely gone into effect. Michelle and Barack also return to the campaign trail, excited to speak with supporters as a kind of... (full context)
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...in particular feels “more fraught than any other,” seeming to her like a referendum on Barack’s political performance, the state of the country, and on his character. Michelle deliberately doesn’t watch... (full context)
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...Hook Elementary school, shooting and killing twenty first-graders and six educators. As the news unfolds, Barack asks for Michelle to come to the Oval Office—the only time in eight years he’s... (full context)
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Barack briefs the nation on what has happened, wiping away tears as he does so. He... (full context)
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...is not a simple place, and the outcome of its stories are not always positive. Barack’s second Inauguration Day comes and goes. Later, Michelle wishes that she could have caught sight... (full context)
Chapter 24
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...junior prom. Her date “gamely” drives up to the South Lawn and shakes Michelle and Barack’s hand. They take a few pictures before heading off to dinner and the dance. Michelle... (full context)
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...Malia come of age in a unique time. The iPhone was released four months before Barack announced his candidacy for president. A billion of them are sold by the end of... (full context)
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As Barack’s second term winds down, Michelle starts to take stock of how drastically her life has... (full context)
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Late in June 2015, Barack and Michelle go to Charleston, South Carolina, to sit with a grieving community where nine... (full context)
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...to marry in all fifty states. Many Americans are overjoyed by this news, and when Barack and Michelle return home, they see the White House illuminated in the colors of the... (full context)
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...when 276 Nigerian schoolgirls were kidnapped by Boko Haram, prompting Michelle to sub in for Barack in his weekly address to the nation and talk about the importance of protecting girls... (full context)
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Barack leverages hundreds of millions of dollars from USAID and the Peace Corps, as well as... (full context)
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...is proud of the whole family for almost finishing this crazy adventure. Michelle looks at Barack, tears in his eyes, and knows that he has sacrificed along the way, as well.... (full context)
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The next morning—a dreary, wet morning—Barack addresses the nation once more. He calls, as always, for unity, dignity, and respect. In... (full context)
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...eating healthier meals; Joining Forces helped persuade businesses to hire or train 1.5 million veterans; Barack and Michelle have leveraged billions of dollars to help girls around the world receive an... (full context)
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Over the course of his presidency, Barack had reversed the most serious economic crisis since the Great Depression, brokered the Paris Agreement... (full context)
Epilogue
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Barack and Michelle leave the White House on January 20, 2017, accompanying Donald and Melania Trump.... (full context)
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...for political office. But, she writes, she still cares deeply about the future, and since Barack left office, she has been extremely distressed and frustrated at stories she’s read in the... (full context)