Brideshead Revisited

by

Evelyn Waugh

Lady Marchmain Character Analysis

Lady Marchmain, the Marchioness of Brideshead, is the estranged wife of Lord Marchmain, and the mother of Brideshead, Julia, Sebastian, and Cordelia. She is a devout Catholic and is publicly known as an extremely virtuous woman whose husband has treated her cruelly. Lord Marchmain left Lady Marchmain after he went to fight in World War I and took an Italian mistress, named Cara. Although her husband will never return, Lady Marchmain refuses to get a divorce because of her strong Catholic principals. Lady Marchmain loves her children, but she is extremely controlling and feels the need to be control all aspects of their lives. Although she is motivated by love for them, and is never angry when they transgress, she makes them feel guilty if they upset her or go against her wishes. This causes her children (particularly Sebastian) to feel manipulated, and encourages him to rebel. Lady Marchmain cannot understand this behavior because she has only ever wanted to be good and saintly. She frequently compares Lord Marchmain and her sons to her older brothers, who were all killed during World War I. This makes Sebastian feel that he cannot live up to his uncles and, instead of inspiring him to behave, increases his self-hatred and self-destructive tendencies. Lady Marchmain goes so far as to use the people around her to spy on her children, so that she always knows what they are up to. While Sebastian is at university, she enlists a Catholic professor, Mr. Samgrass, to keep an eye on him and curtail his heavy drinking, and even tries to use Charles to gather information on her son. Charles realizes that he is being manipulated, however, and feels that, although Lady Marchmain does mean well, she is a danger to Sebastian’s wellbeing because she drives him to rebel against her in extreme ways. Lady Marchmain is very hurt by Sebastian’s rejection of her, and by Julia’s renunciation of the Church when she marries Rex Mottram, and views herself as a martyr. She dies of a terminal illness and refuses treatment because of her belief that extreme suffering brings one closer to Christ.

Lady Marchmain Quotes in Brideshead Revisited

The Brideshead Revisited quotes below are all either spoken by Lady Marchmain or refer to Lady Marchmain. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Innocence, Experience, and Redemption Theme Icon
).
Part 1, Chapter 5 Quotes

She found Sebastian subdued, with all his host of friends reduced to one, myself. She accepted me as Sebastian’s friend and sought to make me hers also, and in doing so, unwittingly struck at the roots of our friendship. That is the single reproach I have to set against her abundant kindness to me.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain
Page Number: 122
Explanation and Analysis:

He claimed to love the past, but I always felt that he thought all the splendid company, living or dead, with whom he associated slightly absurd; it was Mr. Samgrass who was real, the rest were an insubstantial pageant. He was the Victorian tourist, solid and patronizing, for whose amusement these foreign things were paraded.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Mr. Samgrass, Ned
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 124
Explanation and Analysis:

Mr. Samgrass’s deft editorship had assembled and arranged a curiously homogeneous little body of writing—poetry, letters, scraps of a journal, an unpublished essay or two, which all exhaled the same high-spirited, serious, chivalrous, other-worldly air and the letters from their contemporaries, written after their deaths, all in varying degrees of articulateness, told the same tale of men who were, in all the full flood of academic and athletic success, of popularity and the promise of great rewards ahead, seen somehow as set apart from their fellows, garlanded victims, devoted to the sacrifice.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain, Mr. Samgrass, Ned
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 157
Explanation and Analysis:
Part 2, Chapter 1 Quotes

“Well. I’m fond of him too, in a way, I suppose, only I wish he’d behave like anybody else. I’ve grown up with one family skeleton, you know papa. Not to be talked of before the servants, not to be talked of before us when we were children. If mummy is going to start making a skeleton out of Sebastian, it’s too much. If he wants to be always tight, why doesn’t he go to Kenya or somewhere where it doesn’t matter?”

Related Characters: Julia Flyte (speaker), Charles Ryder, Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain
Related Symbols: Brideshead, Skull
Page Number: 186
Explanation and Analysis:

But as I drove away and turned back in the car to take what promised to be my last view of the house, I felt that I was leaving part of myself behind, and that wherever I went afterwards I should feel the lack of it, and search for it hopelessly, as ghosts are said to do, frequenting the spots where they buried material treasures without which they cannot pay their way to the nether world.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 194
Explanation and Analysis:
Part 2, Chapter 2 Quotes

And Lady Marchmain saw this and added it to her new grief for Sebastian and her old grief for her husband and to the deadly sickness in her body, and took all these sorrows with her daily to church; it seemed her heart was transfixed with the swords of her dolors, a living heart to match the plaster and paint; what comfort she took home with her, God knows.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Julia Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain, Rex Mottram
Page Number: 217
Explanation and Analysis:
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Lady Marchmain Quotes in Brideshead Revisited

The Brideshead Revisited quotes below are all either spoken by Lady Marchmain or refer to Lady Marchmain. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Innocence, Experience, and Redemption Theme Icon
).
Part 1, Chapter 5 Quotes

She found Sebastian subdued, with all his host of friends reduced to one, myself. She accepted me as Sebastian’s friend and sought to make me hers also, and in doing so, unwittingly struck at the roots of our friendship. That is the single reproach I have to set against her abundant kindness to me.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain
Page Number: 122
Explanation and Analysis:

He claimed to love the past, but I always felt that he thought all the splendid company, living or dead, with whom he associated slightly absurd; it was Mr. Samgrass who was real, the rest were an insubstantial pageant. He was the Victorian tourist, solid and patronizing, for whose amusement these foreign things were paraded.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Mr. Samgrass, Ned
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 124
Explanation and Analysis:

Mr. Samgrass’s deft editorship had assembled and arranged a curiously homogeneous little body of writing—poetry, letters, scraps of a journal, an unpublished essay or two, which all exhaled the same high-spirited, serious, chivalrous, other-worldly air and the letters from their contemporaries, written after their deaths, all in varying degrees of articulateness, told the same tale of men who were, in all the full flood of academic and athletic success, of popularity and the promise of great rewards ahead, seen somehow as set apart from their fellows, garlanded victims, devoted to the sacrifice.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain, Mr. Samgrass, Ned
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 157
Explanation and Analysis:
Part 2, Chapter 1 Quotes

“Well. I’m fond of him too, in a way, I suppose, only I wish he’d behave like anybody else. I’ve grown up with one family skeleton, you know papa. Not to be talked of before the servants, not to be talked of before us when we were children. If mummy is going to start making a skeleton out of Sebastian, it’s too much. If he wants to be always tight, why doesn’t he go to Kenya or somewhere where it doesn’t matter?”

Related Characters: Julia Flyte (speaker), Charles Ryder, Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain
Related Symbols: Brideshead, Skull
Page Number: 186
Explanation and Analysis:

But as I drove away and turned back in the car to take what promised to be my last view of the house, I felt that I was leaving part of myself behind, and that wherever I went afterwards I should feel the lack of it, and search for it hopelessly, as ghosts are said to do, frequenting the spots where they buried material treasures without which they cannot pay their way to the nether world.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Lady Marchmain
Related Symbols: Brideshead
Page Number: 194
Explanation and Analysis:
Part 2, Chapter 2 Quotes

And Lady Marchmain saw this and added it to her new grief for Sebastian and her old grief for her husband and to the deadly sickness in her body, and took all these sorrows with her daily to church; it seemed her heart was transfixed with the swords of her dolors, a living heart to match the plaster and paint; what comfort she took home with her, God knows.

Related Characters: Charles Ryder (speaker), Sebastian Flyte, Julia Flyte, Lady Marchmain, Lord Marchmain, Rex Mottram
Page Number: 217
Explanation and Analysis: