Eleanor and Park

by

Rainbow Rowell

Eleanor and Park: Chapter 19 Summary & Analysis

Summary
Analysis
Eleanor wakes up Friday morning feeling like it’s her birthday. She’s so excited to get out of the house and spend some time at her father’s place—and to talk to Park on the phone. Eleanor hasn’t seen her dad in at least a year—when he was still in their lives, even, she and her siblings never saw him for more than a few days at a time. On the bus, Park excitedly asks Eleanor what time she’s going to call. She tells him she has to wait until her dad’s kid settles down for the night. Park conspiratorially tells Eleanor that he has a “list” of “personal questions” to ask her. Eleanor cheekily tells Park he shouldn’t expect any answers.
Even though Eleanor and Park are just planning to talk on the phone, they are both approaching the “date” as a chance to really get to know more about one another, and talk freely and privately for the first time in their relationship. It’s a big deal to them, and they’re taking it very seriously.
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After school, Eleanor sits on the steps and waits for her father. Enough time passes that she’s worried he’s not going to come at all—but then he pulls up in a fancy convertible, honking his horn. Eleanor’s dad drives her back to his house, which is only 10 minutes from school. They sit on the couch together and watch ESPN while Eleanor’s dad smokes cigarettes, drinks scotch, and takes phone calls about cars and bets. Eleanor’s father is a gambler, and though there have been times in his life where he’s been strapped for cash, she notices now that his house is full of “small luxuries.” Eleanor is excited for her dad to leave so that she can eat all the nice food in the house—and order a pizza.
Even though Eleanor’s dad isn’t outright abusive, he is selfish and disconnected—and clearly too preoccupied with his own life to check in on Eleanor or her siblings. Eleanor, however, is willing to overlook all this in order to take advantage of some alone time in a nice house stocked with food—and to talk on the phone with Park.
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Eleanor looks through her father’s old records, and is taken back to pleasant memories of listening to music as a child while her mother cleaned the house. She pushes the almost painfully sweet memories away and begins finding records she can use to make Park a mix tape of his own.
This passage shows that music has always been important to Eleanor. It’s a tool that connects her not just to Park, but to her past. 
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After school, Park arrives home to find Tina getting her hair done in the makeshift salon Park’s mother, Mindy—Min-Dae, in Korean—runs out of the Sheridans’ converted garage. When Tina sees Park come in to say hello to his mother, she asks Mindy if she’s met Park’s girlfriend yet, looking meanly at Park as she does. Park insists he doesn’t have a girlfriend. His mother urges him to go check on dinner, and Park, angry, goes into the kitchen and begins slamming cabinets as he gets dinner ready. His father comes in and yells at him, urging him to take his anger out through exercise instead.
This passage introduces yet another recurring thread throughout the novel—the fact that Tina, who the novel later reveals once dated Park, harbors a lingering jealousy of his relationship with Eleanor, and seeks to bring both of them down. Park doesn’t know how to react to this kind of attention—and at many points throughout the novel, is in active denial about it.
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After dinner, Park waits around for the phone to ring. Josh can tell he’s anxious, and makes fun of him—in front of their parents—for “dating Big Red.” Park tells Josh that if he ever uses that nickname again, he will “literally” kill him. Josh continues making fun of Eleanor, and Mindy sends him to his room.
Park has to deal with scrutiny over his relationship with Eleanor not just at school but at home, too—and he is constantly fighting off feelings of shame and uncertainty about Eleanor for this reason.
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Soon, the phone rings, and when Mindy picks up, she tells Park that it’s Eleanor. Park runs to his room to take the call there. Park and Eleanor breathlessly express their mutual excitement to say all the “things [they] can’t say on the bus.” They begin discussing everything, from Park’s Korean heritage (and Park’s fear that being half Asian makes him seem “half-girl” to his racist friends) to Eleanor’s devil-may-care attitude. Eleanor has an answer for everything Park says to her, but yet somehow avoids answering most of his questions. She refuses to talk about her family or her house, even though Park says he wants to know more about her life.
Park and Eleanor’s deep, wide-ranging conversation covers a lot of ground—but there are still secrets Eleanor is keeping. Park wants to know everything about her because, as Rowell asserts through the theme of love and intimacy, true intimacy is knowing another person fully; but he accepts that there are certain parts of Eleanor’s life that she’s not ready to discuss.
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Eleanor hangs up at one point to put her little brother to bed, promising to call back in fifteen minutes—but barely have seven have gone by before she calls again. Park asks her where she is in the house and what she’s doing, so that he can “feel like [he’s] with [her].” She tells him she’s lying in the dark in front of the living room stereo. They talk about music until both of them start to grow sleepy. Eleanor says she misses Park, and wishes they could have some real time alone together. Park hears that she has started crying, and asks her why they can’t see each other. Eleanor replies that her stepdad would “kill” her. Park asks her why Richie is so angry with her all the time, but Eleanor says defensively that in her life, there aren’t always answers to everything.
In this conversation, just as in their conversations on the bus, music is the thing that pulls Eleanor and Park back to one another time and time again. Music connects them practically, in terms of their shared interest, but it’s also a spiritual conduit that allows them to express things words cannot. In this passage, as the conversation turns more serious, Park’s privilege begins to show, and Eleanor tries to impress upon him just how different their lives are.
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Park asks Eleanor why she’s mad at him, but she won’t answer. In response, she asks him why he likes her in the first place. Park replies that he doesn’t just like Eleanor—he “need[s]” her. He says he doesn’t know why he needs her so badly—but has found that lately, all he wants is to be around her all the time. Eleanor doesn’t say anything, and Park begs her to speak up so that he doesn’t feel stupid.
Park’s startling confession is very deep for someone his age. He is unable to articulate what draws him to Eleanor so intensely or why he cares for her so profoundly, but it is this indefinable “need” that makes him want to explore their relationship even further.
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Eleanor tells Park to ask her why she likes him. Park does so. Eleanor replies that she doesn’t like Park—she thinks that she “live[s]” for him, and feels like she can hardly breathe when they’re not together. Eleanor immediately feels embarrassed for having revealed her feelings, but soon Park speaks up to fill the silence. He tells Eleanor that he needs to find a way to see her—even if her “crazy” stepfather is standing in their way. Eleanor insists that Richie would “do whatever he could” to take Park away from Eleanor if he were to find out about them. She reveals that the last time Richie got really mad at her, he kicked her out of the house and refused to let her come home for a year.
Eleanor reciprocates the all-consuming need Park feels, admitting that her relationship with Park is the one thing in her life that sustains her—and the one thing she doesn’t feel she can live without. This also, however, requires Eleanor to open up a little bit and to admit just how fragile things between them are. 
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Park invites Eleanor to come to his house—his family, he says, would welcome her. Eleanor worries that Park will be embarrassed of her—but Park says she could never embarrass him. Eleanor tells Park that she has seen headlights flashing outside—her father is home, and she has to get off the phone. Before he hangs up, Park tells Eleanor he loves her. Eleanor, stunned, hangs up the phone and pretends to be sleeping on the floor as her father walks in the front door.
Eleanor is unable to say the words “I love you” to Park—a fact she worries will derail their relationship. However, Eleanor and Park’s different ways of expressing love will become a recurring thread through their relationship, and something they work on together.
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