Auntie respects Daunis’s ability to make her own choices, even if she doesn’t entirely agree with those choices. However, she still has advice to dispense. It’s possible to apply Auntie’s advice to relationships, as Daunis does as she considers Lily and Travis. However, it’s also worth considering whether the FBI (and by extension, Ron and Jamie) is also trying to control Daunis and exploit her, rather than respect her wishes and keep her safe.