Instead of accepting that Edith isn’t interested in him, the fire spirit stubbornly persists in his attempts to woo her. He relies on his supernatural ability to persuade her to take him seriously, which means that their relationship has very little chance of being an equal one, much less an open, honest one. He’s even manipulated their conversation based on his prior knowledge of her. Edith has almost no agency whatsoever, and while her eventual proposal seems like a moment in which she takes control, it’s virtually his decision, too.