Running in the Family

by

Michael Ondaatje

Michael Ondaatje Character Analysis

Michael Ondaatje is the author and narrator of the memoir. Ondaatje is born in Ceylon (modern-day Sri Lanka) to Doris and Mervyn, but leaves the country with his mother when he is 11 years old. Since Doris divorces Mervyn while Ondaatje is quite young, Ondaatje only has a few memorable interactions with his father as a young boy and never really knows him. After Ondaatje leaves Ceylon for England and later Canada, he largely forgets about his father until his mid-30s, when he begins to be haunted by the fact that he never had a proper father figure. Ondaatje’s lack of knowledge about his father or his family history leaves him uncertain of his own identity as a Sri Lankan man living in Canada, so he embarks on two extended trips back to Ceylon to uncover and record his family’s history. Through numerous conversations with family members about their distant memories, Ondaatje pieces together a partial history of the generations of his family, focusing especially on Mervyn’s life and the reasons for his absence. Although Ondaatje narrates, he is often invisible in his own story aside from notes about where he travels and to whom he speaks. Instead, Ondaatje dwells on the stories about his ancestors and the sensory details of Ceylon. By the end of the memoir, Ondaatje understands the events of his father’s life and knows that he loves his father now, seeing him as a flawed but well-meaning man. Even so, Ondaatje feels that it is only a partial knowledge, and that the absence of his father is a wound that will never entirely heal.

Michael Ondaatje Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Michael Ondaatje or refer to Michael Ondaatje. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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).
Asia Quotes

In my mid-thirties I realized I had slipped past a childhood I had ignored and not understood.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 22
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Jaffna Afternoons Quotes

I see my own straining body which stands shaped like a star and realize gradually that I am part of a human pyramid. Below me there are other bodies that I am standing on and above me there are several more, though I am quite near the top. With cumbersome slowness we are walking from one end of the huge living room to another.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Gillian , Aunt Phyllis
Related Symbols: The Human Pyramid
Page Number: 27
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The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
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Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
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Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
Explanation and Analysis:
Kegalle (i) Quotes

Humorous and gentle when sober, [Mervyn] changed utterly and would do anything to get alcohol. He couldn’t eat, had to have a bottle on him at all times. If his new wife Maureen had hidden a bottle, he would bring out his rifle and threaten to kill her.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Maureen
Page Number: 58
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Tabula Asiae Quotes

On my brother’s wall in Toronto are the false maps. Old portraits of Ceylon. The results of sightings, glances from trading vessels, the theories of sextant. The shapes differ so much they seem to be translations […] growing from mythic shapes to eventual accuracy.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Related Symbols: False Maps
Page Number: 63
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Monsoon Notebook (i) Quotes

I witnessed everything. One morning I would wake and just smell things for the whole day, it was so rich I had to select senses.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 70-71
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The Karapothas Quotes

I am the foreigner. I am the prodigal who hates the foreigner.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 79
Explanation and Analysis:

Ceylon always did have too many foreigners…the “Karapothas” as my niece calls them—the beetles with white spots who never grew ancient here, who stepped in, admired the landscape, dislike the “inquisitive natives” and left.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 80
Explanation and Analysis:

Don’t talk to me about Matisse
[…]
Talk to me instead of the culture generally—
How the murderers were sustained
by the beauty robbed of savages: to our remote
villages the painters came, and our white-washed
mud-huts were splattered with gunfire.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje
Page Number: 85-86
Explanation and Analysis:
Aunts Quotes

How I have used them … [Aunts] knit the story together, each memory a wild thread in the sarong.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 110
Explanation and Analysis:

Memory invades the present in those who are old, the way gardens invade houses here, the way [Aunt Dolly’s] tiny body steps into mine as intimate as anything I have witnessed and I have to force myself to be gentle with this frailty in the midst of my embrace.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Aunt Dolly
Page Number: 112
Explanation and Analysis:
The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Travels in Ceylon Quotes

Ceylon falls on a map and its outline is the shape of a tear. After the spaces of India and Canada it is so small. A miniature. Drive ten miles and you are in a landscape so different that by rights it should belong to another country.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Related Symbols: The Human Pyramid
Page Number: 147
Explanation and Analysis:

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
Explanation and Analysis:
“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

“[Doris] belonged to a type of Ceylonese family whose women would take the minutest reaction from another and blow it up into a tremendously exciting tale, then later use it as an example of someone’s strain of character. If anything kept their generation alive, it was this recording by exaggeration.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 169
Explanation and Analysis:

[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
Explanation and Analysis:
Blind Faith Quotes

Words such as love, passion, duty, are so continually used they grow to have no meaning—except as coins or weapons […] I never knew what my father felt of these “things.” My loss was that I never spoke to him as an adult. Was he locked in the ceremony of being “a father”? He died before I even thought of such things […] I am now part of an adult’s ceremony, but I want to say I am writing book about you at a time when I am least sure about such words.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 179-180
Explanation and Analysis:
The Bone Quotes

The dogs were too powerful to be in danger of being strangled. The danger was to the naked man [Mervyn] who held them at arm’s length, towards whom they swung like large dark magnets. […] He had captured all the evil in the regions he had passed through and was holding it.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Related Symbols: Dogs
Page Number: 182
Explanation and Analysis:
Final Days Father Tongue Quotes

[Mervyn] would swing wildly, in those last years—not so much from sobriety to drink but from calmness to depression. But he was shy, he didn’t want anyone else troubled by it, so he would keep quiet most of the time. That was his only defense. To keep it within so the fear would not hurt others.

I keep thinking of the lines from Goethe… “Oh, who will heal the sufferings / Of the man whose balm turned poison?”

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 198
Explanation and Analysis:

“You must get this book right,” my brother tells me, “You can only write it once.” But the book is again incomplete. In the end, all your children move among the scattered acts and memories with no more clues. Not that we ever thought we would be able to fully understand you. Love is often enough, towards your stadium of small things. Whatever brought you solace we would have applauded. Whatever controlled the fear we all share we would have embraced.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 201
Explanation and Analysis:
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Michael Ondaatje Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Michael Ondaatje or refer to Michael Ondaatje. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory, History, and Story Theme Icon
).
Asia Quotes

In my mid-thirties I realized I had slipped past a childhood I had ignored and not understood.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 22
Explanation and Analysis:
Jaffna Afternoons Quotes

I see my own straining body which stands shaped like a star and realize gradually that I am part of a human pyramid. Below me there are other bodies that I am standing on and above me there are several more, though I am quite near the top. With cumbersome slowness we are walking from one end of the huge living room to another.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Gillian , Aunt Phyllis
Related Symbols: The Human Pyramid
Page Number: 27
Explanation and Analysis:
The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
Explanation and Analysis:
Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
Explanation and Analysis:
Kegalle (i) Quotes

Humorous and gentle when sober, [Mervyn] changed utterly and would do anything to get alcohol. He couldn’t eat, had to have a bottle on him at all times. If his new wife Maureen had hidden a bottle, he would bring out his rifle and threaten to kill her.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Maureen
Page Number: 58
Explanation and Analysis:
Tabula Asiae Quotes

On my brother’s wall in Toronto are the false maps. Old portraits of Ceylon. The results of sightings, glances from trading vessels, the theories of sextant. The shapes differ so much they seem to be translations […] growing from mythic shapes to eventual accuracy.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Related Symbols: False Maps
Page Number: 63
Explanation and Analysis:
Monsoon Notebook (i) Quotes

I witnessed everything. One morning I would wake and just smell things for the whole day, it was so rich I had to select senses.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 70-71
Explanation and Analysis:
The Karapothas Quotes

I am the foreigner. I am the prodigal who hates the foreigner.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 79
Explanation and Analysis:

Ceylon always did have too many foreigners…the “Karapothas” as my niece calls them—the beetles with white spots who never grew ancient here, who stepped in, admired the landscape, dislike the “inquisitive natives” and left.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 80
Explanation and Analysis:

Don’t talk to me about Matisse
[…]
Talk to me instead of the culture generally—
How the murderers were sustained
by the beauty robbed of savages: to our remote
villages the painters came, and our white-washed
mud-huts were splattered with gunfire.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje
Page Number: 85-86
Explanation and Analysis:
Aunts Quotes

How I have used them … [Aunts] knit the story together, each memory a wild thread in the sarong.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Page Number: 110
Explanation and Analysis:

Memory invades the present in those who are old, the way gardens invade houses here, the way [Aunt Dolly’s] tiny body steps into mine as intimate as anything I have witnessed and I have to force myself to be gentle with this frailty in the midst of my embrace.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Aunt Dolly
Page Number: 112
Explanation and Analysis:
The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Travels in Ceylon Quotes

Ceylon falls on a map and its outline is the shape of a tear. After the spaces of India and Canada it is so small. A miniature. Drive ten miles and you are in a landscape so different that by rights it should belong to another country.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker)
Related Symbols: The Human Pyramid
Page Number: 147
Explanation and Analysis:

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
Explanation and Analysis:
“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

“[Doris] belonged to a type of Ceylonese family whose women would take the minutest reaction from another and blow it up into a tremendously exciting tale, then later use it as an example of someone’s strain of character. If anything kept their generation alive, it was this recording by exaggeration.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 169
Explanation and Analysis:

[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
Explanation and Analysis:
Blind Faith Quotes

Words such as love, passion, duty, are so continually used they grow to have no meaning—except as coins or weapons […] I never knew what my father felt of these “things.” My loss was that I never spoke to him as an adult. Was he locked in the ceremony of being “a father”? He died before I even thought of such things […] I am now part of an adult’s ceremony, but I want to say I am writing book about you at a time when I am least sure about such words.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 179-180
Explanation and Analysis:
The Bone Quotes

The dogs were too powerful to be in danger of being strangled. The danger was to the naked man [Mervyn] who held them at arm’s length, towards whom they swung like large dark magnets. […] He had captured all the evil in the regions he had passed through and was holding it.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Related Symbols: Dogs
Page Number: 182
Explanation and Analysis:
Final Days Father Tongue Quotes

[Mervyn] would swing wildly, in those last years—not so much from sobriety to drink but from calmness to depression. But he was shy, he didn’t want anyone else troubled by it, so he would keep quiet most of the time. That was his only defense. To keep it within so the fear would not hurt others.

I keep thinking of the lines from Goethe… “Oh, who will heal the sufferings / Of the man whose balm turned poison?”

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 198
Explanation and Analysis:

“You must get this book right,” my brother tells me, “You can only write it once.” But the book is again incomplete. In the end, all your children move among the scattered acts and memories with no more clues. Not that we ever thought we would be able to fully understand you. Love is often enough, towards your stadium of small things. Whatever brought you solace we would have applauded. Whatever controlled the fear we all share we would have embraced.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 201
Explanation and Analysis: