Kao’s relationship with Youa forms the overarching love story in the book, which reinforces the idea that Yang thinks familial love is far more powerful than romantic love. Youa’s hesitance to allow her sons to separate also emphasizes the importance of family bonds in the story. Youa continues showing her adaptability and resilience—even in a refugee camp, she finds a way to earn a living and support her family, showing that she’s a true leader. The men in her family, meanwhile, feel disempowered by their lack of freedom and inability to move forward with their lives. Yang subtly suggests that women like Youa are actually stronger than men in Hmong culture, despite the fact that it’s structured in a patriarchal way (meaning that the men are traditionally more powerful or more respected).