Here, again, the Kashmiris’ insistence upon honoring every person killed in the conflict, no matter how many, demonstrates their resilience as a community. They could respond to so much death with defeatism, but instead, they continue to honor lives lost. Khadija also demonstrates resilience in her pragmatism. She is unphased by Tilo’s having been taken into police custody, and simply shows up with the change of clothes she knows Tilo will need and continues with normal life. Khadija’s strength and dedication to her cause is remarkable, and these traits make it especially ironic that someone with such emotional fortitude and commitment to Kashmiri liberation wouldn’t be allowed near the graves of the dead. Khadija and the other women of Kashmir, the novel suggests, can certainly handle the grief, and certainly deserve to participate in the rituals given all they sacrifice for Kashmir.