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Part 1, Chapter 2
Themes
Key
LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in The Silent Patient, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Empathy, Identification, and Boundaries
Tragedy and Destiny
Honesty vs. Deception
Childhood Trauma
Silence vs. “The Talking Cure”
Summary
Analysis
Theo Faber, the narrator, introduces himself. He is 42 years old, and in his own words, “I became a psychotherapist because I was fucked up.” He explains that increasingly, psychologists have realized just how much people—from infancy—are shaped by their relationships with their parents.
Now, it makes sense why the early chapters have dwelt so much on the question of motivation (the “why”): Theo is a psychotherapist, and it is his job to understand the logic behind his patients’ behavior. For Theo, the “why” of adult action is often located in childhood trauma—at least, that is certainly how he experiences it in his own life.
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Theo had a terrible relationship with his father, who was angry, erratic, and physically abusive. He found little solace from his mother, who would always write off his father as being “completely mad.” As an adult, Theo believes that his father probably was suffering from some undiagnosed mental disorder.
Theo’s searching sense of empathy is evident even in the way he describes his father. Though his dad was an incredibly damaging figure, Theo can look back at him with some measure of pity, acknowledging that he probably struggled with some untreated mental illness.
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The only moments of happiness in Theo’s childhood were the moments when his father was away. One winter, for example, when his dad was on a business trip, he and his mom made a snowman that looked just like his father. Later that night, Theo snuck out into the snowstorm, catching the snowflakes on his tongue. “Grasping at vanishing snowflakes is like grasping at happiness,” Theo comments. “An act of possession that instantly gives way to nothing.”
Snow will become an important symbol in the story. On the one hand, Theo’s memories of the snowstorm contrast with the hot summer in which Alicia killed her husband. But on the other hand, snow—melting and impermanent—represents the difficulty of “grasping at happiness,” especially for someone as deeply traumatized as Theo.
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Theo felt that the only way to survive was to escape from his father, which he did by going to university. But once there, he realized that he had internalized all of his father’s hatred and abuse. At one point, he became so depressed that he tried to kill himself. But when the suicide attempt failed, Theo realized that he actually wanted to live—he just needed help.
If Theo instinctively feels a sense of empathy with Alicia, it now becomes clear that they each have experience with suicidal tendencies. But unlike Alicia, Theo sought out help instead of refusing it.
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That help came from Ruth, a therapist that Theo found through the university. As Theo would recount, without emotion, the traumatic details of his childhood, he would look up and see tears in Ruth’s eyes. Gradually, Theo realized that the tears in Ruth’s eyes actually belonged to him. “That’s how therapy works,” Theo notes. “A patient delegates his unacceptable feelings to the therapist; and she holds everything he is afraid to feel, and feels it for him. Then, ever so slowly, she feeds his feelings back to him.”
Ruth is the single most important, positive influence in Theo’s life, and this essential moment forms the basis of his own therapeutic practice. Ruth felt Theo’s feelings “for him,” allowing him to recognize emotions he was not yet ready to embrace. Later, he will do that for his own patients, holding all their “unacceptable feelings” as his own. But unlike Ruth, Theo does not always know how to let go of his patients’ feelings—the final, most essential part of the therapeutic process.
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Over several years with Ruth, Theo began to reach a new level of inner peace and happiness. Feeling that therapy had saved his life, Theo resolved to become a therapist himself. Training wasn’t easy: the first time Theo went to a psychiatric unit, a patient immediately defecated right in front of him, shocking him. But over time, Theo grew accustomed to the intensity of such spaces. “You become increasingly comfortable with madness,” he writes, “and not just the madness of others, but your own.”
In several ways, this passage shows that the line between patient and therapist is not always as defined as it would seem. Theo became a healer because he needed to be healed; even after being trained and certified, he still feels that he has his “own madness” to contend with.
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At his interview at the Grove, however, Theo does not give any of this more personal backstory. Instead, Theo responds to his interviewer—a kindly therapist named Indira Sharma—by emphasizing the amount of training he has gone through. He is offered the job, and one month later, Theo arrives for work at the Grove.
Yet while Theo is forthcoming with readers about his sense of closeness to his patients, he does not reveal any of that to his future colleagues. Already, then, there is a slight sense that Theo might not be straightforward or honest as he presents himself to be.
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