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Part 2, Chapter 8
Themes
Key
LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in The Silent Patient, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Empathy, Identification, and Boundaries
Tragedy and Destiny
Honesty vs. Deception
Childhood Trauma
Silence vs. “The Talking Cure”
Summary
Analysis
Once inside, Theo asks Ruth for a drink, and she pours him a glass of sherry. Theo wonders if it is inappropriate for Ruth to drink with an old patient, but she softly tells him that now he is “just a friend.” Theo tells Ruth everything that has happened. She offers him tissues, but he finds himself unable to cry.
Ruth might be blurring boundaries here—drinking with Theo, referring to him as a “friend”—but in this case, such an overstep seems like the healthiest thing to do. Once again, Ruth is allowing Theo a way to feel the feelings, shed the tears, he cannot yet handle.
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Theo had been seeing Ruth when he met Kathy; Ruth had urged him to choose a partner who would always be honest and direct with him. Before Theo and Kathy had gotten married, they’d made a pact never to lie to each other. When Ruth wonders what went wrong, Theo says that he feels like Kathy was bored—she was missing “fireworks” in their relationship.
As the voice of wisdom in the novel, Ruth’s insistence on honesty is critical: in both personal and professional relationships, she argues that being direct is the key to security and peace. But nearly no one in the story is honest with anyone else, which means Ruth’s advice carries a measure of tragic irony; more than the characters, the readers understand just how far off Ruth’s words are from reality.
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Ruth counters that such passion is not actually a sign of love; “real love,” she argues, “is very quiet, very still.” Ruth feels that Theo has been a loving partner to Kathy, even if Kathy does not always see his patience and reliability as love. But Ruth feels that Kathy is probably a deeply selfish person, incapable of returning the love that Theo gives her.
When Theo thinks about his childhood, he is easily able to recognize that part of his pain comes from his family’s inability to be consistent with him. In his romantic relationship, however, Theo buys into Kathy’s more dramatic, perhaps more toxic, view of love.
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Though Theo does not want to admit it, Ruth also sees Kathy as part of a larger pattern: like his parents, Kathy is emotionally unavailable. Against his will, Theo comes to see that Ruth is right—by marrying Kathy, Theo was trying to prove to himself that he really is unlovable, just as his father always said.
This exchange is another place where therapy and Greek tragedy overlap: many therapists, like ancient dramatists, rely on the idea of a harmful pattern that repeats itself for years. And in both cases, people are victims of these patterns just as much as they are free, self-determining agents.
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In no uncertain terms, Ruth tells Theo that he needs to break the pattern and leave Kathy. Ruth shows Theo to the door, and she hugs him on the way out. Theo is overcome with emotion, but he does not cry. On the bus ride home, he pictures Kathy and feels himself drawn to her beautiful skin and eyes. But he is resolved: “I had to go home and confront Kathy,” he vows. “I had to leave her.”
Because Ruth has shown herself to be so knowing, her sternness here is an important structural inflection point (one that might be familiar to readers of Greek tragedy): if Theo takes her advice, he will avoid doom. But if he fails to do so, he will almost certainly meet his own destruction.
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