LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Family, Responsibility, and Growing Up
Love and Fear
Social Structure, Reputation, and High School
Lies vs. Honesty
Summary
Analysis
Kitty is still angry with Lara Jean and ignores her all morning. Finally, though, Lara Jean convinces Kitty to at least growl at her. But then, Kitty flounces away. Lara Jean decides to organize her outfits for the first week of school and is in the middle of it when Josh texts her. His text gives her a thrill, so she has to remind himself that he’s off-limits. Josh invites Lara Jean on a bike ride—a Margot thing, not a Lara Jean thing. She declines and says she has to help Daddy around the house, so Josh offers to help Daddy. Lara Jean makes up a random excuse, hoping he doesn’t show up to help. She fixates on him saying that she’s keeping him going. She wants to help, but it’s hard.
Lara Jean subconsciously wants to talk to and hang out with Josh. But she has to balance these feelings against the fact that Margot would be hurt if Lara Jean got romantically involved with Josh. So once again, Lara Jean is eschewing her own desires to keep the peace in her family.
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