Finding Mr. Winterbottom in what’s presumably his wife’s apron, washing dishes, shows Sal, at least, how upset Mr. Winterbottom actually is that his wife is gone. But Phoebe is too caught up in her own emotions to notice. Even when confronted with proof that her father was crying, Phoebe isn’t willing to acknowledge that Mr. Winterbottom isn’t as stoic as he seems—perhaps because this would mean that her father isn’t who Phoebe thought he was, just as her mother isn’t who Phoebe thought she was.