LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in We Need to Talk About Kevin, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Guilt and Accountability
Marriage, Family, and Social Norms
Nature vs. Nurture
Idealism vs. Reality
Forgiveness and Empathy
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One day in 1982, Eva has just returned from a trip to Greece and waits for Franklin to come home from work. She is making a traditional Greek dish for dinner but becomes frustrated when Franklin doesn’t come home on time. Eva becomes scared as more time passes. When the phone rings, Eva assumes it’s Franklin, but it’s actually her mother calling. Eva feels that her mother resents her because she is so well-traveled. She is rude to her mother on the phone. She realizes that her situation parallels her mother’s experience of waiting to hear from Eva’s father, only to find out that he was killed in combat—news she received when she was pregnant with Eva.
Eva’s assumption that her mother resents her seems conceited. Eva’s mother is a recluse who finds it difficult to travel, but she treats Eva well throughout the novel, and Eva doesn’t present any evidence of her mother’s resentment. Eva was raised in a non-traditional household since her father died before she was born, and this might impact Eva’s own values about family. She doesn’t value a traditional nuclear family like Franklin does, and this could be because she never experienced one growing up.
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As more time passes, Eva becomes increasingly anxious about Franklin. She considers a “parallel universe” in which he never comes home. She drinks wine, but it doesn’t taste right without Franklin there. Everything in the house looks meaningless without him. Eva remembers how her mother tried to replace Eva’s father with Eva’s older brother, Giles. No one could ever replace Franklin, but Eva thinks that if he ever died, she would want to have a child to help her through the loss. Franklin finally comes home, and Eva decides to try to get pregnant.
It's ironic that Eva’s fear of losing Franklin is what ultimately convinces her to have a child, because Kevin ends up coming between Eva and Franklin. Earlier, Eva claimed to want a child to add excitement to her life. Her reason for wanting a child now—to help her through a potential loss—is an equally selfish reason. Eva seems to view her potential child as a means to satisfy her own emotional needs rather than a separate person with their own emotional needs.
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Eva and Franklin stop using birth control. Though Franklin is thrilled, Eva has second thoughts. She starts to think of her body in terms of its biological practicality instead of its beauty, and she feels like she is losing agency over her own body. Eva continues to drink while they are trying to conceive, and Franklin disapproves. Eventually, Eva goes to the doctor for a pregnancy test. When the doctor says it’s positive, Eva feels sick. The doctor tells Eva what she should do and eat in order to have a healthy pregnancy, and Eva once more feels that she is losing control over her body.
Eva doesn’t want to sacrifice for her child even during pregnancy. In a way, the power struggle between Eva and Kevin begins before Kevin is born, as Eva feels like being pregnant forces her to relinquish control of herself.
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Eva resents that she can no longer drink wine. Franklin stops drinking, too, in solidarity. This annoys Eva. She thinks that Franklin doesn’t mind sacrificing his life for his child because he doesn’t know what else to do with his life, and she believes that this attitude eventually put too much pressure on Kevin. Though Eva regrets deciding to become pregnant, she loves Franklin and knows that all he wants is to have children. After they conceive, Franklin is hesitant to have sex because he thinks it might hurt the fetus, and this exasperates Eva.
Just as Eva’s relationship with Kevin is strained even before he’s born, Kevin comes between Eva and Franklin while Eva is still pregnant with him. Eva points out how Franklin’s attitude toward parenting may have been detrimental to Kevin, but she doesn’t acknowledge how harmful it may have been to her son that she never really wanted him in the first place.