LitCharts assigns a color and icon to each theme in With the Fire on High, which you can use to track the themes throughout the work.
Coming of Age and Teen Parenthood
Creativity vs. Professional Norms
Food and Connection
Caregiving, Independence, and Identity
Support, Community, and Mentorship
Summary
Analysis
Before Emoni knows it, it’s Saturday morning—“visitation time.” Tyrone’s parents have pushed for a paternity test for Babygirl for her entire life, but Tyrone knows Emoni was a virgin before him and never agreed to the test. But this meant that Tyrone’s parents wouldn’t let him have Babygirl at their house; he’s had to come to Emoni’s to visit his daughter. Since the middle of summer, though, Tyrone’s parents have been allowing Tyrone to take Babygirl every other weekend. It’s been a difficult transition, though Tyrone is always right on time.
Tyrone and his parents’ lack of support has complicated Emoni’s transition into parenthood. This has meant that most of the childrearing work has fallen to Emoni and ’Buela over the last two years, while Tyrone has been freer to do as he likes. As Tyrone increasingly steps up, though, it means that Emoni and ’Buela get more time for themselves.
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When Tyrone crouches down to hug Babygirl, she runs into his arms. Babygirl is freshly braided and wearing nice clothes, as Tyrone’s mom insists. Emoni tries not to be jealous of the adoring way Babygirl looks at Tyrone as she hands over the baby bag. She also tries not to sniff Tyrone’s intoxicating scent. When she mentions she packed snacks and juice boxes, Tyrone reminds her she doesn’t have to. After ’Buela says goodbye to Babygirl, Tyrone opens the door and begins to walk through—and as Babygirl realizes Emoni and ’Buela aren’t coming, she screeches and tries to squirm away. It breaks Emoni’s heart, but she doesn’t move as Tyrone buckles Babygirl into his mom’s Lexus and drives away. Emoni and ‘Buela tell each other Babygirl will be fine and head for the kitchen; Emoni has time to make tembleque before work.
As demanding as being a parent is for Emoni, it’s still difficult to share her daughter with Tyrone. Babygirl still finds this difficult as well—though she adores Tyrone, she’s also used to her mom and great-grandmother being there for her, not him. Though Emoni isn’t cooking, per se, making sure Babygirl has snacks and juice that she’s used to is Emoni’s way of using food to show Babygirl she cares. Finally, noting that Tyrone’s mom drives a Lexus highlights that Tyrone’s family is well-off financially, in contrast to Emoni’s more precarious financial situation.