Tanker was a model for healthy emotion, but after his death, the narrator seems to have lost his ability to navigate complex feelings. He found it particularly hard to interact with Freddy’s mom in her grief, to the point he wished he didn’t have to see her at all. In her grief, his view of the world became less hopeful, which deeply affected his ability to handle his own family’s problems. Still, it is important that Freddy’s mom continues to show up. She still offers to make sandwiches (a symbol of care), even if she is overwhelmed by her pain. Ivan, too, continues to try, even if he initially left to mourn.