Jade is aware that while Mrs. Parker may think she’s doing nice things for Jade, these kindnesses still make Jade uncomfortably aware that she is poor and black while her classmates are wealthy and (presumably) predominantly white. In other words, these opportunities look at Jade
only as a poor black girl, not as someone who’s also a dreamer, who wants to go abroad, and who’s already doing very well for herself, regardless of her circumstances. Jade demonstrates her discomfort in part through her tone, which conveys that speaking to Mrs. Parker is often a trying and demeaning experience.