Judith Templeton’s textbook is a symbol of bureaucratic incompetence and the lack of emotion that many governments show when dealing with human loss. On a personal level, the textbook embodies Judith’s insensitivity and her inability to truly empathize with people who have experienced profound tragedy. More broadly, though, it also symbolizes a sterile and overly programmatic bureaucratic approach to grief—an approach that relies on schematics and carefully charted stages of grief while ignoring the humanity of the people who are actually dealing with the agonizing consequences of such a harrowing loss. Judith’s textbook is juxtaposed with the real-life, lived experiences of grief that Shaila Bhave, Kusum, Dr. Ranganathan, and the elderly couple all experience. Those characters' experiences of grief are all shown to be deeply personal, varied, messy, and impossible to predict, ultimately illustrating how ineffective a procedural textbook is when it comes to addressing the many difficulties of true loss and sorrow.
Judith Templeton’s Textbook Quotes in The Management of Grief
“Nothing I can do will make any difference,” I say. “We must all grieve in our own way.”
“In the textbooks on grief management,” [Judith] replies—I am her confidante, I realize, one of the few whose grief has not sprung bizarre obsessions—“there are stages to pass through: rejection, depression, acceptance, reconstruction.” She has compiled a chart and finds that six months after the tragedy, none of us still reject reality, but only a handful are reconstructing. “Depressed Acceptance” is the plateau we’ve reached.