Mrs. Sen’s

by

Jhumpa Lahiri

Driving Symbol Icon

Driving symbolizes American culture’s emphasis on independence—something that Mrs. Sen is afraid of and doesn’t want to accept. Mrs. Sen’s inability to drive is an issue, since it means she can’t drive to Eliot’s house to babysit him. Eliot’s mother is uncomfortable with this, but Mr. Sen reassures her that she’ll learn by December. Eliot’s mother, a single mom, is the epitome of an independent American woman. So to her, Mrs. Sen’s inability to drive herself around represents a lack of independence and agency—things that the story implies are necessary to function properly in American society.

Mr. Sen wants his wife to learn to drive so that she can be independent of him and do errands without his help. But the Sens led a much more communal and family-oriented lifestyle in India (they even had a chauffeur to drive Mrs. Sen around)—a way of life that Mrs. Sen misses dearly as a new immigrant. She is afraid whenever she practices driving, which indicates her disinterest in the isolation and independence that driving alone represents. Mrs. Sen would rather return to the close-knit community she had in India, where she wasn’t required to spend so much time alone. When Eliot suggests that driving might make her life better, because she can go wherever she wants, she asks, “Could I drive all the way to Calcutta?” The lonely Mrs. Sen would rather return to her life in India then gain the independence needed to live in America.

After many anxiety-ridden practice sessions, Mrs. Sen finally works up the courage to drive on the open road with Eliot in the car. But she gets into an accident almost immediately, which results in her losing her job as Eliot’s babysitter. It’s implied that she gives up on driving after this, which suggests that she’s also given up on trying to assimilate and mold herself into the independent person that American society expects her to be.

Driving Quotes in Mrs. Sen’s

The Mrs. Sen’s quotes below all refer to the symbol of Driving. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Mrs. Sen’s Quotes

“At home, you know, we have a driver.”

“You mean a chauffeur?”

Mrs. Sen glanced at Mr. Sen, who nodded.

Eliot’s mother nodded, too, looking around the room. “And that’s all…in India?”

“Yes,” Mrs. Sen replied. The mention of the word seemed to release something in her. She neatened the border of her sari where it rose diagonally across her chest. She, too, looked around the room, as if she noticed in the lampshades, in the teapot, in the shadows frozen on the carpet, something the rest of them could not. "Everything is there.”

Related Characters: Mrs. Sen (speaker), Eliot’s Mother (speaker), Eliot, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Driving
Page Number: 113
Explanation and Analysis:

“Whenever there is a wedding in the family,” she told Eliot one day, “or a large celebration of any kind, my mother sends out word in the evening for all the neighborhood women to bring blades just like this one, and then they sit in an enormous circle on the roof of our building, laughing and gossiping and slicing fifty kilos of vegetables through the night.” […] "It is impossible to fall asleep those nights, listening to their chatter.” She paused to look at a pine tree framed by the living room window. “Here, in this place where Mr. Sen has brought me, I cannot some­ times sleep in so much silence.”

Related Characters: Mrs. Sen (speaker), Eliot, Eliot’s Mother, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Food and Cooking, Driving
Page Number: 115
Explanation and Analysis:

“Mr. Sen says that once I receive my license, everything will improve. What do you think, Eliot? Will things improve?”

“You could go places,” Eliot suggested. “You could go any­ where.”

"Could I drive all the way to Calcutta? How long would that take, Eliot? Ten thousand miles, at fifty miles per hour?”

Related Characters: Eliot (speaker), Mrs. Sen (speaker), Eliot’s Mother, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Driving
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:

"My sister has had a baby girl. By the time I see her, depend­ing if Mr. Sen gets his tenure, she will be three years old. Her own aunt will be a stranger. If we sit side by side on a train she will not know my face.” She put away the letter, then placed a hand on Eliot’s head. "Do you miss your mother, Eliot, these afternoons with me?”

The thought had never occurred to him.

"You must miss her. When I think of you, only a boy, sep­arated from your mother for so much of the day, I am ashamed.”

“I see her at night.”

“When I was your age I was without knowing that one day I would be so far. You are wiser than that, Eliot. You already taste the way things must be."

Related Characters: Eliot (speaker), Mrs. Sen (speaker), Eliot’s Mother, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Driving
Page Number: 122-123
Explanation and Analysis:

In November came a series of days when Mrs. Sen refused to practice driving. The blade never emerged from the cupboard, newspapers were not spread on the floor. She did not call the fish store, nor did she thaw chicken.

Related Characters: Eliot, Mrs. Sen, Eliot’s Mother, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Driving, Food and Cooking
Page Number: 128
Explanation and Analysis:

"Eliot,” Mrs. Sen asked him while they were sitting on the bus, "will you put your mother in a nursing home when she is old?”

“Maybe,” he said. "But I would visit every day.”

“You say that now, but you will see, when you are a man your life will be in places you cannot know now.” She counted on her fingers: "You will have a wife, and children of your own, and they will want to be driven to different places at the same time. No matter how kind they are, one day they will complain about visiting your mother, and you will get tired of it too, Eliot. You will miss one day, and another, and then she will have to drag herself onto a bus just to get herself a bag of lozenges.”

Related Characters: Eliot (speaker), Mrs. Sen (speaker), Eliot’s Mother, Mr. Sen
Related Symbols: Driving, Food and Cooking
Page Number: 132
Explanation and Analysis:

After taking off her slippers and putting them on the book­ case, Mrs. Sen put away the blade that was still on the living room floor and threw the eggplant pieces and the newspapers into the garbage pail. […] Then she went into her bedroom and shut the door.

Related Characters: Eliot, Mrs. Sen
Related Symbols: Food and Cooking, Driving
Page Number: 134
Explanation and Analysis:
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Driving Symbol Timeline in Mrs. Sen’s

The timeline below shows where the symbol Driving appears in Mrs. Sen’s. The colored dots and icons indicate which themes are associated with that appearance.
Mrs. Sen’s
Isolation and Loneliness Theme Icon
Femininity, Gender Roles, and Culture Theme Icon
...previous babysitters came to their house—but Mrs. Sen can’t, because she doesn’t know how to drive. (full context)
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Assimilation and Foreignness Theme Icon
Femininity, Gender Roles, and Culture Theme Icon
...how long she’s lived in this country. Above all, she’s concerned that Mrs. Sen can’t drive, since Eliot’s mother works 50 miles north and his father lives 2,000 miles away. Mr.... (full context)
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Assimilation and Foreignness Theme Icon
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...seems to arrive early, and she always brings Eliot a snack. Mrs. Sen then practices driving with Eliot in the car for 20 minutes. She says that she feels strange leaving... (full context)
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Assimilation and Foreignness Theme Icon
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Driving practice makes Mrs. Sen nervous: she makes slow circles around the apartment complex and continuously... (full context)
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...Mrs. Sen and Eliot to the fish market; he tries to get Mrs. Sen to drive there, but she refuses. (full context)
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Assimilation and Foreignness Theme Icon
Mr. Sen takes the same roads that Eliot’s mother does when she drives them home in the evenings, but the usual route seems unfamiliar in the Sens’ car.... (full context)
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In November, Mrs. Sen refuses to cook or practice driving for several days. She silently prepares Eliot peanut butter on crackers and then sits reading... (full context)
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...using the camera that Mrs. Sen brought along. Then, Mr. Sen insists that Mrs. Sen drive home, despite her objections. She drives for a while but panics and pulls over when... (full context)
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Mrs. Sen stops driving after this—when she wants fish, she avoids calling Mr. Sen and takes the bus instead.... (full context)
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...next time the fish market calls, Mrs. Sen calls Mr. Sen to ask him to drive them to the market, but he doesn’t answer. She keeps trying to reach him, and... (full context)