Like Jay, Grace sees the letters—because they contain his words and thoughts in a physical form—as a kind of limited embodiment of Jun. In this scene readers finally learn the reason that Jay stopped writing back to Jun back, and it’s at once pretty silly and deeply relatable: he got distracted by a romantic relationship, even if it was a bit of a shallow one. Now, though, revealing that information brings him closer to Grace, who shares details about her own relationship with Jessa. Emotional truthfulness leads to more emotional connection, and admitting what you feel guilty about can be a way of taking responsibility..