Mrs. Winters’s choice to have this conversation in front of Jade is extremely rude. It drives home that Maxine and Woman to Woman aren’t doing what they set out to do: elevate and help Jade. Instead, they’re distilling her rich life history down into a “sob story,” and Maxine is using Jade to try to show her parents that she’s doing something useful with her life. It’s also worth noting that Mrs. Winters’s willingness to say these things in front of Jade likely reflects her class status—she feels she has the power to say things like this without suffering consequences.