Running in the Family

by

Michael Ondaatje

Doris Gratiaen Character Analysis

Doris is the mother of Ondaatje, Gillian, and Ondaatje’s other siblings. She is Mervyn’s first wife. Like Mervyn, Doris is born to a wealthy upper-class family in Ceylon. As a young woman, she loves theatre and dance and often performs publicly. Although Doris maintains her penchant for drama throughout her life, after she marries Mervyn much of her energy shifts to combating his alcoholism. Doris deeply loves Mervyn in spite of his addiction, and she spends 14 years trying to cure Mervyn of his condition, first by rescuing him when he gets himself into trouble and later by trying to manipulate him by using their children to make him feel guilty. After 14 years of marriage, Doris finally gives up on Mervyn, takes her four young children, and leaves. She is stubborn and prideful and refuses to ask for any alimony, taking a job in a hotel to support their family instead. When Ondaatje is 11, Doris takes him to England for the rest of his childhood, leaving his father permanently behind. Although Doris is unable to rescue Mervyn from his drinking, Ondaatje depicts her as the real strength within their family.

Doris Gratiaen Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Doris Gratiaen or refer to Doris Gratiaen. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory, History, and Story Theme Icon
).
The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
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Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
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Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
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The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
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Travels in Ceylon Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
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Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
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“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

“[Doris] belonged to a type of Ceylonese family whose women would take the minutest reaction from another and blow it up into a tremendously exciting tale, then later use it as an example of someone’s strain of character. If anything kept their generation alive, it was this recording by exaggeration.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 169
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[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
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Doris Gratiaen Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Doris Gratiaen or refer to Doris Gratiaen. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory, History, and Story Theme Icon
).
The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
Explanation and Analysis:
Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
Explanation and Analysis:
The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Travels in Ceylon Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
Explanation and Analysis:
“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

“[Doris] belonged to a type of Ceylonese family whose women would take the minutest reaction from another and blow it up into a tremendously exciting tale, then later use it as an example of someone’s strain of character. If anything kept their generation alive, it was this recording by exaggeration.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 169
Explanation and Analysis:

[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
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