Running in the Family

by

Michael Ondaatje

Mervyn Ondaatje Character Analysis

Mervyn is the father of Michael Ondaatje, Gillian, and Ondaatje’s other siblings, and is Doris’s husband for 14 years. Mervyn is born to a wealthy, respectable upper-class family in Ceylon. However, despite his family’s prestige, Mervyn comes of age in the 1920s and embodies the decade’s brash and irresponsible behavior. Most of Mervyn’s energy as a young man is dedicated to avoiding responsibility, and he often tries to “solve one problem by creating another.” Two weeks after announcing his engagement to a respectable English girl in Cambridge, Mervyn leaves her to return to Ceylon and becomes engaged to Doris Gratiaen instead. Mervyn and Doris marry, but Mervyn’s irresponsible behavior continues. Even after the parties of the 1920s are largely over, Mervyn maintains a heavy drinking habit, developing dipsomania, or alcoholism. Although an officer in the Ceylon Light Infantry, Mervyn constantly gets so drunk in public that family members or friends must come rescue him, including Doris. Mervyn even tries to commit suicide while drunk. Mervyn and Doris have four children, but Mervyn continues to suffer from dipsomania, remaining sober for one or two months at a time and then binge drinking for days. Although Mervyn is a gentle father and husband when sober, he is monstrous when drunk. After 14 years of marriage, when Ondaatje is only a small child, Doris leaves Mervyn, taking Ondaatje and his siblings with her. Mervyn is heartbroken, though he eventually marries a woman named Maureen with two daughters, Susan and Jennifer. He starts and operates a chicken farm for some years, but it eventually fails. In his later years, Mervyn also reveals that he has struggled with lifelong depression and anxiety about the world, which seems to contribute heavily to his drinking. In his mid-sixties, Mervyn lapses into severe depression, and eventually dies of a cerebral hemorrhage, a common complication of alcoholism. Although childish and irresponsible, Mervyn is ultimately depicted as a tragic figure, crushed under the weight of his psychological pain and addiction.

Mervyn Ondaatje Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Mervyn Ondaatje or refer to Mervyn Ondaatje. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
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Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
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Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
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Kegalle (i) Quotes

Humorous and gentle when sober, [Mervyn] changed utterly and would do anything to get alcohol. He couldn’t eat, had to have a bottle on him at all times. If his new wife Maureen had hidden a bottle, he would bring out his rifle and threaten to kill her.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Maureen
Page Number: 58
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The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
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Travels in Ceylon Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
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Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
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“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
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Blind Faith Quotes

Words such as love, passion, duty, are so continually used they grow to have no meaning—except as coins or weapons […] I never knew what my father felt of these “things.” My loss was that I never spoke to him as an adult. Was he locked in the ceremony of being “a father”? He died before I even thought of such things […] I am now part of an adult’s ceremony, but I want to say I am writing book about you at a time when I am least sure about such words.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 179-180
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The Bone Quotes

The dogs were too powerful to be in danger of being strangled. The danger was to the naked man [Mervyn] who held them at arm’s length, towards whom they swung like large dark magnets. […] He had captured all the evil in the regions he had passed through and was holding it.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Related Symbols: Dogs
Page Number: 182
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Final Days Father Tongue Quotes

[Mervyn] would swing wildly, in those last years—not so much from sobriety to drink but from calmness to depression. But he was shy, he didn’t want anyone else troubled by it, so he would keep quiet most of the time. That was his only defense. To keep it within so the fear would not hurt others.

I keep thinking of the lines from Goethe… “Oh, who will heal the sufferings / Of the man whose balm turned poison?”

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 198
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“You must get this book right,” my brother tells me, “You can only write it once.” But the book is again incomplete. In the end, all your children move among the scattered acts and memories with no more clues. Not that we ever thought we would be able to fully understand you. Love is often enough, towards your stadium of small things. Whatever brought you solace we would have applauded. Whatever controlled the fear we all share we would have embraced.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 201
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Mervyn Ondaatje Quotes in Running in the Family

The Running in the Family quotes below are all either spoken by Mervyn Ondaatje or refer to Mervyn Ondaatje. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Memory, History, and Story Theme Icon
).
The Courtship Quotes

[Mervyn] bought Doris a huge emerald engagement ring which he charged to his father’s account. His father refused to pay and my father threatened to shoot himself. Eventually, it was paid for by the family.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Philip Ondaatje
Page Number: 34
Explanation and Analysis:
Flaming Youth Quotes

The waste of youth. Burned purposeless. They forgave that and understood that before everything else. After Francis died there was really nowhere to go.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Francis de Saram
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Tropical Gossip Quotes

Love affairs rainbowed over marriages and lasted forever—so it often seemed that marriage was the greater infidelity. From the twenties until the war nobody really had to grow up. The remained wild and spoiled.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 53
Explanation and Analysis:
Kegalle (i) Quotes

Humorous and gentle when sober, [Mervyn] changed utterly and would do anything to get alcohol. He couldn’t eat, had to have a bottle on him at all times. If his new wife Maureen had hidden a bottle, he would bring out his rifle and threaten to kill her.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Maureen
Page Number: 58
Explanation and Analysis:
The Passions of Lalla Quotes

Eccentrics can be the most irritating people to live with. My mother, for instance, strangely never spoke of Lalla to me. Lalla was loved by people who saw her arriving from the distance like a storm.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen, Lalla Gratiaen
Page Number: 119
Explanation and Analysis:
Travels in Ceylon Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] were both from gracious, genteel families, but my father went down a path unknown to his parents and wife. She followed him and coped with him for fourteen years, surrounding his behavior like a tough and demure breeze.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Photograph Quotes

Everything is there, of course. Their good looks behind the tortured faces, their mutual humor, and the fact that both them are hams of a very superior sort. The evidence I wanted that they were absolutely perfect for each other. My father’s tanned skin, my mother’s milk paleness, and this theatre of their own making.

It is the only photograph I have found of them together.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 162
Explanation and Analysis:
“What We Think of Married Life” Quotes

[Mervyn and Doris] had come a long way in fourteen years from being the products of two of the best known and wealthiest families in Ceylon: my father now owning only a chicken farm at Rock Hill, my mother working in a hotel.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje, Doris Gratiaen
Page Number: 172
Explanation and Analysis:
Blind Faith Quotes

Words such as love, passion, duty, are so continually used they grow to have no meaning—except as coins or weapons […] I never knew what my father felt of these “things.” My loss was that I never spoke to him as an adult. Was he locked in the ceremony of being “a father”? He died before I even thought of such things […] I am now part of an adult’s ceremony, but I want to say I am writing book about you at a time when I am least sure about such words.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 179-180
Explanation and Analysis:
The Bone Quotes

The dogs were too powerful to be in danger of being strangled. The danger was to the naked man [Mervyn] who held them at arm’s length, towards whom they swung like large dark magnets. […] He had captured all the evil in the regions he had passed through and was holding it.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Related Symbols: Dogs
Page Number: 182
Explanation and Analysis:
Final Days Father Tongue Quotes

[Mervyn] would swing wildly, in those last years—not so much from sobriety to drink but from calmness to depression. But he was shy, he didn’t want anyone else troubled by it, so he would keep quiet most of the time. That was his only defense. To keep it within so the fear would not hurt others.

I keep thinking of the lines from Goethe… “Oh, who will heal the sufferings / Of the man whose balm turned poison?”

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 198
Explanation and Analysis:

“You must get this book right,” my brother tells me, “You can only write it once.” But the book is again incomplete. In the end, all your children move among the scattered acts and memories with no more clues. Not that we ever thought we would be able to fully understand you. Love is often enough, towards your stadium of small things. Whatever brought you solace we would have applauded. Whatever controlled the fear we all share we would have embraced.

Related Characters: Michael Ondaatje (speaker), Mervyn Ondaatje
Page Number: 201
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