Becoming Nicole

by

Amy Ellis Nutt

Nicole and Jonas’s mother, and Wayne’s wife. Kelly grows up in a somewhat unconventional family, as she is raised by the sister of her biological mother. She also finds herself unable to have children of her own, so she and Wayne adopt Nicole (then Wyatt) and Jonas from her 16-year-old cousin Sarah. Because of this, Kelly has fewer expectations of what a family should look like than her husband Wayne does. So, when Wyatt begins to express his female identity even before two years old, Kelly is more open to Wyatt’s wishes—she buys him more feminine clothing, and dolls rather than action figures. Eventually recognizing that Wyatt’s behavior isn’t a phase, but not understanding exactly what is going on in her son’s mind, Kelly tries to learn as much as she can about the potential things that Wyatt might be experiencing. As she digs through information on homosexuality, transsexualism, and being transgender, she gaining knowledge makes her better equipped to help Wyatt. She starts to refer to Wyatt as her daughter, advocates for him to be on the girls’ softball team, and finds a specialist who will allow Wyatt to continue his transition to Nicole. When Nicole faces discrimination at school and the school does nothing to improve the situation, Kelly decides that it would be better for the family to move rather than for her daughter to suffer. Thus, Kelly shows how families are defined by the love and support they have for one another, not by arbitrary social expectations.

Kelly Maines Quotes in Becoming Nicole

The Becoming Nicole quotes below are all either spoken by Kelly Maines or refer to Kelly Maines. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Gender Identity, Expression, and Transformation Theme Icon
).
Chapter 1 Quotes

By the time Wayne reached home and embraced Kelly, he was smiling, thinking not about the added expenses but about the double joy: two baseball gloves, two basketballs, two rifles for his two baby boys!

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Sarah
Page Number: 13
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Chapter 4 Quotes

Kelly was learning to do things pretty much on her own for both boys, but especially Wyatt. He clamored to wear the same colorful clothes as Leah, and rather than wear the flannel shirt his mother bought him to match Jonas’s, he would go bare chested. Kelly felt it was cruel to keep dressing Wyatt in clothes he hated, so she made the decision, without Wayne’s input, to shop every now and then for something less masculine for Wyatt to wear.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Leah
Page Number: 25
Explanation and Analysis:

One evening, when the twins were about three years old and had been tucked in for the night, Kelly sat down at the computer in the living room and typed five words into the search engine:

“Boys who like girls’ toys.”

It was both a question and a statement of fact. For Kelly, it was also a beginning. She scrolled through science articles, online forums, and medical sites. She read about homosexuality, transsexualism—wasn’t that what drag queens were?—and something called transgender. She read for hours.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines
Page Number: 27
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 5 Quotes

“Are you going to let him wear that?” Wayne asked.

Kelly didn’t answer. Instead, she raced up to Wyatt, hot tears now streaking his face, took him by the hand, and led him back into his bedroom. It was, she knew right then and there, the worst moment of her life. It wasn’t so much the reaction of the people at the party, who were mostly stunned into silence—that was Wayne’s issue—but rather the hurt her son was experiencing, and for no good reason other than that he wanted to wear his princess dress to the family’s party.

Related Characters: Wayne Maines (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 37
Explanation and Analysis:

Wayne was also trying to make sense of Wyatt, in his own way, but mostly he was hoping these were all things his son would simply outgrow. He didn’t want to think about his son being gay. It was fine if the sons of other fathers were gay, because he had no problem working with gay people or his children having gay friends. He just didn’t want that for his son. It would be too hard his whole life, and Wayne was afraid he wouldn’t know how to be the kind of father Wyatt would want—or need.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines
Page Number: 40
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 7 Quotes

You think you are the only person in the world that has this. In fact, we now know that there are tens and tens of thousands of people in this country alone who have this. One scholar says that it’s as common as multiple sclerosis, it’s as common as a cleft palate. It’s something that many people in the country and across the world have, but these people are living in silence and shame because they are afraid to speak the truth.

Related Characters: Jennifer Finney Boylan (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 13 Quotes

Wyatt was flooded with relief, knowing there was someone out there just like him. Wayne couldn’t believe it. Wyatt, he realized, had all the same anger issues, and he and Kelly all the same anxieties, but Jazz’s parents were openly discussing them on national TV. Wayne fought back tears for the rest of the hour.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jennifer Finney Boylan, Jazz Jennings
Page Number: 81
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 18 Quotes

For Wayne, this was the first time he’d shown any kind of public support for Wyatt being transgender. His instincts as a father had been tested without his even realizing it, and he’d responded to the challenge. The petition was granted, and in a matter of days Wyatt Benjamin Maines would officially and legally become Nicole Amber Maines.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines
Page Number: 118
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 28 Quotes

Kelly and the kids would move to Portland, and Wayne would commute on weekends and holidays to be with them. They’d always thought they were on an upward trajectory in their lives, with success and promotions at work fueling an increasingly better lifestyle, but Jacob and his grandfather Paul Melanson had bizarrely changed all that. Suddenly, Wayne and Kelly were downsizing and their lives were in reverse.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Jacob Melanson, Paul Melanson
Page Number: 173
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 31 Quotes

It was impossible for the Maineses not to feel the importance of their case among these hardworking people, and they realized that their lawsuit wasn’t just about Nicole or their family. It wasn’t even just their story anymore. The lawsuit, even though it was just a state case, had meaning and significance for many others. And now Wayne, Kelly, Nicole, and Jonas would carry the hopes of those others with them as they sought affirmation from the courts.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 195
Explanation and Analysis:
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Kelly Maines Quotes in Becoming Nicole

The Becoming Nicole quotes below are all either spoken by Kelly Maines or refer to Kelly Maines. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Gender Identity, Expression, and Transformation Theme Icon
).
Chapter 1 Quotes

By the time Wayne reached home and embraced Kelly, he was smiling, thinking not about the added expenses but about the double joy: two baseball gloves, two basketballs, two rifles for his two baby boys!

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Sarah
Page Number: 13
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 4 Quotes

Kelly was learning to do things pretty much on her own for both boys, but especially Wyatt. He clamored to wear the same colorful clothes as Leah, and rather than wear the flannel shirt his mother bought him to match Jonas’s, he would go bare chested. Kelly felt it was cruel to keep dressing Wyatt in clothes he hated, so she made the decision, without Wayne’s input, to shop every now and then for something less masculine for Wyatt to wear.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Leah
Page Number: 25
Explanation and Analysis:

One evening, when the twins were about three years old and had been tucked in for the night, Kelly sat down at the computer in the living room and typed five words into the search engine:

“Boys who like girls’ toys.”

It was both a question and a statement of fact. For Kelly, it was also a beginning. She scrolled through science articles, online forums, and medical sites. She read about homosexuality, transsexualism—wasn’t that what drag queens were?—and something called transgender. She read for hours.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines
Page Number: 27
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 5 Quotes

“Are you going to let him wear that?” Wayne asked.

Kelly didn’t answer. Instead, she raced up to Wyatt, hot tears now streaking his face, took him by the hand, and led him back into his bedroom. It was, she knew right then and there, the worst moment of her life. It wasn’t so much the reaction of the people at the party, who were mostly stunned into silence—that was Wayne’s issue—but rather the hurt her son was experiencing, and for no good reason other than that he wanted to wear his princess dress to the family’s party.

Related Characters: Wayne Maines (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 37
Explanation and Analysis:

Wayne was also trying to make sense of Wyatt, in his own way, but mostly he was hoping these were all things his son would simply outgrow. He didn’t want to think about his son being gay. It was fine if the sons of other fathers were gay, because he had no problem working with gay people or his children having gay friends. He just didn’t want that for his son. It would be too hard his whole life, and Wayne was afraid he wouldn’t know how to be the kind of father Wyatt would want—or need.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines
Page Number: 40
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 7 Quotes

You think you are the only person in the world that has this. In fact, we now know that there are tens and tens of thousands of people in this country alone who have this. One scholar says that it’s as common as multiple sclerosis, it’s as common as a cleft palate. It’s something that many people in the country and across the world have, but these people are living in silence and shame because they are afraid to speak the truth.

Related Characters: Jennifer Finney Boylan (speaker), Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 13 Quotes

Wyatt was flooded with relief, knowing there was someone out there just like him. Wayne couldn’t believe it. Wyatt, he realized, had all the same anger issues, and he and Kelly all the same anxieties, but Jazz’s parents were openly discussing them on national TV. Wayne fought back tears for the rest of the hour.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jennifer Finney Boylan, Jazz Jennings
Page Number: 81
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 18 Quotes

For Wayne, this was the first time he’d shown any kind of public support for Wyatt being transgender. His instincts as a father had been tested without his even realizing it, and he’d responded to the challenge. The petition was granted, and in a matter of days Wyatt Benjamin Maines would officially and legally become Nicole Amber Maines.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines
Page Number: 118
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 28 Quotes

Kelly and the kids would move to Portland, and Wayne would commute on weekends and holidays to be with them. They’d always thought they were on an upward trajectory in their lives, with success and promotions at work fueling an increasingly better lifestyle, but Jacob and his grandfather Paul Melanson had bizarrely changed all that. Suddenly, Wayne and Kelly were downsizing and their lives were in reverse.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines, Jacob Melanson, Paul Melanson
Page Number: 173
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 31 Quotes

It was impossible for the Maineses not to feel the importance of their case among these hardworking people, and they realized that their lawsuit wasn’t just about Nicole or their family. It wasn’t even just their story anymore. The lawsuit, even though it was just a state case, had meaning and significance for many others. And now Wayne, Kelly, Nicole, and Jonas would carry the hopes of those others with them as they sought affirmation from the courts.

Related Characters: Nicole/Wyatt Maines, Kelly Maines, Wayne Maines, Jonas Maines
Page Number: 195
Explanation and Analysis: