Griet’s parents encourage Pieter’s courtship in part because of their sense of responsibility to make sure their daughter is taken care of (in this society, she needs a husband to be secure), and in part because of their own needs. As their daughter, Griet falls under their authority until she marries, and thus doesn’t feel that she can refuse Pieter’s courtship outright, especially insofar as her parents encourage it. Her society, which deprives young women of autonomy and power, limits her choices. In the alley, however, Griet acknowledges more openly the wildness she's hinted at earlier. She tells readers that she does have desires—for autonomy, for love, for Vermeer—but that she still feels unable to express these due to the constraints and expectations placed on her. Thus, she continues to hide her true self under her demure cap and behind a mask of orderliness and control.