Henry’s thoughts about silence shed light on how he feels about his own parents’ hesitancy to openly voice their feelings and opinions. He suggests that this hesitancy aligns with Korean cultural values, which present silence as an honorable, respectable way of responding to surprises or hardships. Janice comes at things differently, though: her Korean boyfriend’s silence made her feel like he didn’t care about their relationship. The entire interaction somewhat resembles the argument Henry and Lelia had about Ahjuhma: in both cases, cultural differences and misunderstandings led to tension. At the same time, though, Henry also recognizes that silence
isn’t always honorable, perhaps acknowledging to himself that Lelia ended up feeling like she was suffering alone with her grief because he refused to speak honestly about his feelings after Mitt died.