In the yellow notebook, Ella’s father is an aging, exceedingly introverted, ex-military man who lives in splendid isolation in Cornwall, passing his days reading philosophy and writing poetry. When Ella asks him about their family, he professes that he never cared much for other people or had an active sex life with her mother. He loves Ella in the abstract but has no interest in learning about her life; he believes that people cannot change and are better off alone than trying to form relationships with people unlike them. His pessimism about relationships is a more extreme version of what Ella and Anna already feel about their inability to meaningfully connect with men.