The Memory Keeper’s Daughter

by

Kim Edwards

At the start of the novel, Norah Henry is a young, subservient wife whose only hope is to be taken care of. When she unexpectedly has twins, her husband David, who delivered the children, tells her that the girl, Phoebe, died at birth. After this point, Norah’s idyllic life as a doctor’s wife is derailed by grief, loss, sorrow, and frustration about her community and her own husband’s failure to acknowledge the magnitude of her loss. Though Norah tries to suppress her grief for years, she feels a horrible presence taking root in her marriage, and she knows that her husband is drifting further and further from her all the time. Norah tries to mend things for a while, but after David proves increasingly inaccessible, she embarks on a career of her own as a successful travel agent and has a series of sexual dalliances, which empower her even as they estrange her from her husband and her son Paul. Norah becomes headstrong and self-assured in her later years, divorcing David and finding love with Frederic, a Frenchman who shares Norah’s passion for travel. Norah remains haunted by the loss of her daughter, and often feels she can sense Phoebe’s presence just out of reach. When Caroline Gill arrives on her doorstep a year after David’s death to reveal the truth that Phoebe has been alive the whole time, Norah is angry and devastated—but also relieved as she feels the “jagged pieces” of her life beginning to make sense at last. Norah undergoes a serious transformation over the course of the novel, and her arc ties in with major themes including secrets and lies, and memory and the past.

Norah Henry Quotes in The Memory Keeper’s Daughter

The The Memory Keeper’s Daughter quotes below are all either spoken by Norah Henry or refer to Norah Henry. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
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Chapter 1: March 1964 Quotes

When they reached the car she touched his arm and gestured to the house, veiled with snow and glowing like a lantern in the darkness of the street.

“When we come back we’ll have our baby with us,’’ she said. “Our world will never be the same.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry
Related Symbols: Snow
Page Number: 10-11
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 3: March 1964 Quotes

She too had been shocked by Bree’s nerve, her daring, and she was angry that the rules seemed to have shifted, that Bree had more or less gotten away with it—the marriage, the divorce, the scandal.

She hated what Bree had done to them all.

She wished desperately that she’d done it first.

But it would never have occurred to her. She’d always been good; that was her job.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Bree
Page Number: 41
Explanation and Analysis:

“He had a sister,” Norah whispered, determined, looking around at all the faces. They had come here out of kindness. They were sad, yes, and she was making them sadder by the second. What was happening to her? All her life she had tried so hard to do the right thing. “Her name was Phoebe. I want somebody to say her name. Do you hear me?” She stood up. “I want someone to remember her name.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 5: February 1965 Quotes

“Please don’t be sad. I didn’t forget, Norah. Not our anniversary. Not our daughter. Not anything.”

“Oh, David,” she said. “I left your present in the car.” She thought of the camera, its precise dials and levers. The Memory Keeper, it said on the box, in white italic letters; this, she realized, was why she’d bought it—so he’d capture every moment, so he’d never forget.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry (speaker)
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 88
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 7: May 1965 Quotes

He took a deep breath, fighting a wave of vertigo, afraid even to glance at Norah. He had wanted to spare her, to protect her from loss and pain; he had not understood that loss would follow her regardless, as persistent and life-shaping as a stream of water. Nor had he anticipated his own grief, woven with the dark threads of his past. When he imagined the daughter he’d given away, it was his sister’s face he saw, her pale hair, her serious smile.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson, June
Page Number: 109
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 9: May 1970 Quotes

“Put the camera away,” she said. “Please. It’s a party, David.”

“These tulips are so beautiful,” he began, but he was unable to explain himself, unable to put into words why these images compelled him so.

“It’s a party,” she repeated. “You can either miss it and take pictures of it, or you can get a drink and join it.”

“I have a drink,” he pointed out. “No one cares that I’m taking a few pictures, Norah.”

“I care. It’s rude.”

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry (speaker)
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 11: July 1977 Quotes

The photographs they were discussing were all of her: her hips, her skin, her hands, her hair. And yet she was excluded from the conversation: object, not subject. […] She had tried, by posing for David, to ease some of the distance that had grown between them. His fault, hers—it didn’t really matter. But watching David now, absorbed in his explanation, she understood that he did not really see her and hadn’t for years.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Howard
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 181
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 12: August 1977 Quotes

He had given their daughter away. This secret stood in the middle of their family; it shaped their lives together. He knew it, he saw it, visible to him as a rock wall grown up between them. And he saw Norah and Paul reaching out and striking rock and not understanding what was happening, only that something stood between them that could not be seen or broken.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 193-194
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 22: July 1, 1989 Quotes

For a long time Norah sat very still, agitated, on the edge of knowing. And then suddenly the knowledge was hers, irrevocable, searing: all those years of silence, when he would not speak of their lost daughter, David had been keeping this record of her absence. Paul, and a thousand other girls, all growing.

Paul, but not Phoebe.

Norah might have wept. She longed suddenly to talk with David. All these years, he’d missed her too. All these photographs, all this silent, secret longing.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 364
Explanation and Analysis:

Caroline said it again: Phoebe, not dead but taken away. All these years. Phoebe, growing up in another city. Safe, Caroline kept saying. Safe, well cared for, loved. Phoebe, her daughter, Paul’s twin. Born with Down syndrome, sent away.

David had sent her away.

“You must be crazy,” Norah said, though even as she spoke so many jagged pieces of her life were falling into place that she knew what Caroline was saying must be true.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Caroline Gill Simpson, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 369
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 24: September 1, 1989 Quotes

“How?” he asked softly. “How could he never tell us?”

She turned to him, serious. “I don’t know. I’ll never understand it. But think how his life must have been, Paul. Carrying this secret with him all those years.”

He looked across the table. Phoebe was standing next to a poplar tree whose leaves were just beginning to turn, scraping whipped cream off her cake with her fork. “Our lives could have been so much different.”

“Yes. That’s true. But they weren’t different, Paul. They happened just like this.”

“You’re defending him,” he said slowly.

“No. I’m forgiving him. I’m trying to, anyway. There’s a difference.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Paul Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 396
Explanation and Analysis:
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Norah Henry Quotes in The Memory Keeper’s Daughter

The The Memory Keeper’s Daughter quotes below are all either spoken by Norah Henry or refer to Norah Henry. For each quote, you can also see the other characters and themes related to it (each theme is indicated by its own dot and icon, like this one:
Secrets and Lies Theme Icon
).
Chapter 1: March 1964 Quotes

When they reached the car she touched his arm and gestured to the house, veiled with snow and glowing like a lantern in the darkness of the street.

“When we come back we’ll have our baby with us,’’ she said. “Our world will never be the same.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry
Related Symbols: Snow
Page Number: 10-11
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 3: March 1964 Quotes

She too had been shocked by Bree’s nerve, her daring, and she was angry that the rules seemed to have shifted, that Bree had more or less gotten away with it—the marriage, the divorce, the scandal.

She hated what Bree had done to them all.

She wished desperately that she’d done it first.

But it would never have occurred to her. She’d always been good; that was her job.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Bree
Page Number: 41
Explanation and Analysis:

“He had a sister,” Norah whispered, determined, looking around at all the faces. They had come here out of kindness. They were sad, yes, and she was making them sadder by the second. What was happening to her? All her life she had tried so hard to do the right thing. “Her name was Phoebe. I want somebody to say her name. Do you hear me?” She stood up. “I want someone to remember her name.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 47
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 5: February 1965 Quotes

“Please don’t be sad. I didn’t forget, Norah. Not our anniversary. Not our daughter. Not anything.”

“Oh, David,” she said. “I left your present in the car.” She thought of the camera, its precise dials and levers. The Memory Keeper, it said on the box, in white italic letters; this, she realized, was why she’d bought it—so he’d capture every moment, so he’d never forget.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry (speaker)
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 88
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 7: May 1965 Quotes

He took a deep breath, fighting a wave of vertigo, afraid even to glance at Norah. He had wanted to spare her, to protect her from loss and pain; he had not understood that loss would follow her regardless, as persistent and life-shaping as a stream of water. Nor had he anticipated his own grief, woven with the dark threads of his past. When he imagined the daughter he’d given away, it was his sister’s face he saw, her pale hair, her serious smile.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson, June
Page Number: 109
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 9: May 1970 Quotes

“Put the camera away,” she said. “Please. It’s a party, David.”

“These tulips are so beautiful,” he began, but he was unable to explain himself, unable to put into words why these images compelled him so.

“It’s a party,” she repeated. “You can either miss it and take pictures of it, or you can get a drink and join it.”

“I have a drink,” he pointed out. “No one cares that I’m taking a few pictures, Norah.”

“I care. It’s rude.”

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry (speaker)
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 149
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 11: July 1977 Quotes

The photographs they were discussing were all of her: her hips, her skin, her hands, her hair. And yet she was excluded from the conversation: object, not subject. […] She had tried, by posing for David, to ease some of the distance that had grown between them. His fault, hers—it didn’t really matter. But watching David now, absorbed in his explanation, she understood that he did not really see her and hadn’t for years.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Howard
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 181
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 12: August 1977 Quotes

He had given their daughter away. This secret stood in the middle of their family; it shaped their lives together. He knew it, he saw it, visible to him as a rock wall grown up between them. And he saw Norah and Paul reaching out and striking rock and not understanding what was happening, only that something stood between them that could not be seen or broken.

Related Characters: Dr. David Henry (speaker), Norah Henry, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 193-194
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 22: July 1, 1989 Quotes

For a long time Norah sat very still, agitated, on the edge of knowing. And then suddenly the knowledge was hers, irrevocable, searing: all those years of silence, when he would not speak of their lost daughter, David had been keeping this record of her absence. Paul, and a thousand other girls, all growing.

Paul, but not Phoebe.

Norah might have wept. She longed suddenly to talk with David. All these years, he’d missed her too. All these photographs, all this silent, secret longing.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Related Symbols: Photography
Page Number: 364
Explanation and Analysis:

Caroline said it again: Phoebe, not dead but taken away. All these years. Phoebe, growing up in another city. Safe, Caroline kept saying. Safe, well cared for, loved. Phoebe, her daughter, Paul’s twin. Born with Down syndrome, sent away.

David had sent her away.

“You must be crazy,” Norah said, though even as she spoke so many jagged pieces of her life were falling into place that she knew what Caroline was saying must be true.

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Caroline Gill Simpson, Paul Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 369
Explanation and Analysis:
Chapter 24: September 1, 1989 Quotes

“How?” he asked softly. “How could he never tell us?”

She turned to him, serious. “I don’t know. I’ll never understand it. But think how his life must have been, Paul. Carrying this secret with him all those years.”

He looked across the table. Phoebe was standing next to a poplar tree whose leaves were just beginning to turn, scraping whipped cream off her cake with her fork. “Our lives could have been so much different.”

“Yes. That’s true. But they weren’t different, Paul. They happened just like this.”

“You’re defending him,” he said slowly.

“No. I’m forgiving him. I’m trying to, anyway. There’s a difference.”

Related Characters: Norah Henry (speaker), Paul Henry (speaker), Dr. David Henry, Phoebe Gill Simpson
Page Number: 396
Explanation and Analysis: