In many ways, it’s a good thing for parents to urge their children do pursue ambitious goals, since this can be a way of guiding them into stable and rewarding lives. However, August has a negative view of this style of parenting, seeing it as a way of steering people like her and her friends into “failed futures,” or futures that parents never accomplished for themselves. And though this might be the case, it’s worth considering that this idea might have something to do with the fact that August doesn’t know what her mother would want for her, since she’s not in her life. Therefore, listening to what her friends parents want for their daughters (or listening to what her father wants for her) is simply yet another reminder of her mother’s absence.