As Miss Lonelyhearts explores several romantic and sexual relationships that ultimately fail to fulfill him, the novella seems to suggest that human disconnection is a major problem in Depression-era American society and that, further, even loving partners can only understand each other’s emotional turmoil to a limited extent. Upon first glance, Miss Lonelyhearts’s relationship with Betty appears to have potential even despite Miss Lonelyhearts’s decision to avoid Betty for two months straight after he proposed. Betty genuinely cares for Miss Lonelyhearts, taking him to the farm on which she was born so that he can experience nature and disconnect from the emotional demands of the Lonelyhearts letters. Despite her efforts, however, Betty and Miss Lonelyhearts can’t understand each other on a deep enough level. In his “almost insanely sensitive” state, Miss Lonelyhearts makes Betty cry at the realization that she’s happier without him, and Betty ultimately can’t wrap her mind around Miss Lonelyhearts’s obsession with other people’s suffering. Thus, her love isn’t enough to “save” Miss Lonelyhearts from his stress, emotional turmoil, and preoccupation with the suffering of those around him. In this way, the novella seems to suggest that Miss Lonelyhearts’s society has wounded him in such a manner that he can no longer recognize or contribute to a loving partnership.
Miss Lonelyhearts shares another noteworthy relationship with Mr. Doyle. After Mr. Doyle confides in Miss Lonelyhearts about the burdens of working as a disabled man, the two men hold hands on two separate occasions and seem to build a sense of silent yet tangible understanding and comfort with one another. Miss Lonelyhearts remarks to himself that he’s excited by how they seem to communicate with one another wordlessly, and he likely sees himself in Mr. Doyle’s isolation. However, at the end of the novella, Mr. Doyle has succumbed to the violent nature of their society, intending to kill Miss Lonelyhearts for assaulting his wife, and when Miss Lonelyhearts, who believes he’s become one with God, tries to embrace Mr. Doyle, this action triggers the string of events that leads to Miss Lonelyhearts’s death. This tragic end to the novella suggests that even when Miss Lonelyhearts becomes capable of expressing genuine love, care, and acceptance for another person, his love is no match for his society, which leads people to act with malicious, violent intent.
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The Limitations of Love Quotes in Miss Lonelyhearts
“Betty the Buddha,” he said. “Betty the Buddha. You have the smug smile; all you need is the pot belly.”
His voice was so full of hatred that he himself was surprised. He fidgeted for a while in silence. […] More than two months had passed since he had sat with her on this same couch and had asked her to marry him.
When he kissed Shrike’s wife, he felt less like a joke. She returned his kisses because she hated Shrike. But even there Shrike had beaten him. No matter how hard he begged her to give Shrike horns, she refused to sleep with him.
“My good friend, your accusation hurts me to the quick. You spiritual lovers think that you alone suffer. But you are mistaken. Although my love is of the flesh flashy, I too suffer. It’s suffering that drives me into the arms of the Miss Farkises of this world. Yes, I suffer.”
He had always been the pursuer, but now found a strange pleasure in having the rôles reversed. He drew back when she reached for a kiss. She caught his head and kissed him on his mouth. At first it ticked like a watch, then the tick softened and thickened into a heart throb. It beat louder and more rapidly each second until he thought it was going to explode.
He was too tired to be annoyed by her wide-eyed little mother act and let her feed him with a spoon. When he had finished eating, she opened the window and freshened the bed. As soon as the room was in order, she started to leave, but he called her back.
He blew her a kiss. She caught it with a gesture that was childishly sexual. He vaulted the porch rail and ran to kiss her. As they went down, he smelled a mixture of sweat, soap and crushed grass.
The cripple had a very strange face. His eyes failed to balance; his mouth was not under his nose; his forehead was square and bony; and his round chin was like a forehead in miniature. […] They sat staring at each other until the strain of wordless communication began to excite them both.
After finishing the letter, he did not let go, but pressed it firmly with all the love he could manage. At first the cripple covered his embarrassment by disguising the meaning of the clasp with a handshake, but he soon gave in to it and they sat silently hand in hand.
He begged the party dress to marry him, saying all the things it expected to hear, all the things that went with strawberry sodas and farms in Connecticut. He was just what the party dress wanted him to be: simple and sweet, whimsical and poetic, a trifle collegiate yet very masculine.
He did not understand the cripple’s shout and heard it as a cry for help from Desperate, Harold S. Catholic-mother, Broken-hearted, Broad-shoulders, Sick-of-it-all, Disillusioned-with-tubercular-husband. He was running to succor them with love.