Violet and her family see Finch’s parents’ attempts to hug Violet as rude and invasive. This is especially true since, to Violet and her parents, Violet was the only person who actually cared about Finch. But although Violet and her parents might agree on this, Violet also can’t stomach the way she knows her parents talk about Finch’s suicide. It’s unfair, she thinks, to compare Finch and Eleanor’s deaths.