Although single mothers do exercise autonomy and power in their households, they only do so out of necessity, which is why Bourgois argues that they are actually being controlled by (absent) men in doing so. Essentially, women are forced to pick up the pieces of men’s neglect. Again, this double-bind means that women are denigrated for no matter what they do (whether providing for their children or focusing entirely on motherhood), creating an impossible double standard, while men are accepted no matter how little they contribute to their families.