Scarlett finds Rhett heroic and dependable because he isn’t in the army, but Rhett is undergoing a change of feeling. In this moment, Rhett shocks Scarlett by turning out to be just like every other Southern man: filled with the same irrational, sentimental pride in the Cause, even though it is close to being lost. However, unlike other men, he continues to see Scarlett as capable and self-sufficient, which is why he insists she keep going without him.