Scarlett struggles between two ways of being: honest, like the Tarletons, or modest, like her mother. She suspects that even relationships with boys can be open and playful, but she lives in a world where the rules of decency are strict, and where she can’t confide in her mother. Then, it's interesting that she refers to the Tarletons as “true Southerners.” This implies that Scarlett doesn’t see herself as a true Southerner, and she doesn’t feel like she fits in with old Southern society.